Roles of the parent.
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Roles of the parent.
| Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am |
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Karen
"Terry manages to hand the bag off to Ruth Marie, who takes off in the most mincing sprint you have ever seen in your life. She does her best, but she runs like she's got a pink parasol in one hand and an inhaler in the other."
Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, Survivor: Exile Island
Karen
"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't
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And that's fine with me. IME the public schools do and should offer community service such as visiting the nursing home, cooking and serving at soup kitchens/food banks, hosting a holiday party for low-income children, collecting toys/clothes for the still-unattended-to victims of Katrina, etc.
I just finished up a few months helping victims of domestic abuse living in a shelter to fill out uncontested divorce petitions. After speaking with them one-on-one, I highly doubt they would benefit chatting with your happy Middle Schooler popping in every other week (and then skipping home to your heated house with their X-boxes and comfy warm beds). Same with a homeless shelter or soup kitchen.
Why do you think it helps these desperate people to sit and talk with your child?
I think it's unkind to educate your child about the hopeless victims in our society at their expense.
What "damage?" If the young child cannot overcome tedium and being presented with the same material he previously learned, he will not make it in the real world.
I've already told you my DH's story. He has a genius IQ and was bitter when denied the opportunity to skip 3rd grade. Oh, well. Too bad. He "rallied" in high school...and I think he even had to study in college. If tedium had "damaged" him, then he rightly should not have gotten where he is today ~ he could not handle it.
Karen
"Terry manages to hand the bag off to Ruth Marie, who takes off in the most mincing sprint you have ever seen in your life. She does her best, but she runs like she's got a pink parasol in one hand and an inhaler in the other."
Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, Survivor: Exile Island
Karen
"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't
DH and I don't have a "class" identity with our university graduating class either. However, for the most part, the friends we made Freshman year are the ones we kept and still keep today.
There is something about that first year in college that forms longer lasting friendships. If we ever moved to a college town and one of my boys was going to attend it- he wouldn't live at home - he would be in the dorms with the other Freshman.
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