Roles of the parent.

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Roles of the parent.
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 2:33pm
The profession is not worth the worship is receives.
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 2:34pm
When you visit it IRL, then what you learn in depth in a textbook is more likely to be remembered long term rather than forgotten as soon as the test has been taken. Having a visual memory of the visited place makes it easier to remember the facts learned verbally (textbook). This is because these things engage separate areas of the brain. The knowledge is held onto more tightly because it is dispersed through different areas of the brain.
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 2:56pm
Yeah, law school is in and out in 3 years. My best friend has a PhD, and there seemed to be a big range in terms of when students finished. I watched her defend her dissertation, and it was only then that I fully appreciated how big a process that was....
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 2:59pm

Do you all live nearby?

I'm still in touch with a few college friends, but I went to college in my home state, and I no longer live there. My best friend from law school and I moved to the same city, so we're still best friends today. Most of the rest of them I see infrequently.

My brother is still good friends with a lot of his college buddies, and I think a big part of it is that they're within a reasonable driving distance.

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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 3:32pm

We don't live nearby. We get together with DH's college friends for a week every three years. It is this summer in Maine (last tie it was in Colorado-before that Oregon...). We come from Virginia, Massachusetts, Minn., Wisc, Oregon, CA. We usually several between visits too.

I went to a state school and many settle here in VA. My best friend from college just moved back from Naples. I visited her in England (when she lived their) two years ago- we have seen her a few times since as she comes through town. In fact we are having dinner with her this evening. There is really only one person I keep up with from HS, I went to his wedding last June in Mass.

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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 4:08pm
i have to disagree, i think seeing a place or something in real life does make a difference. i took my kids to see the traveling vietnam memorial last fall, they both had tears in thier eyes when we left, i doubt that is the response they have in a classroom.
as to the alamo - i think the thing with that is that it is much smaller than one expects it to be and the fact that it seems to be in the middle of a town - and i know i found that a bit disappointing, however it didnt diminish the historical value of visiting there, and i did find the visit educational. for sheer entertainment i would certainly take the riverwalk.
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 4:43pm

"Before the advent of modern birth control, there were always mothers with several very young children, closely spaced, who did not have any help from family or friends in raising the children."

I flat-out disagree. Until farming times when families needed every hand they could get to bring in crops (and when kids were labor and "childhood" an unheard of luxury), women could not afford to have several, closely-spaced children. Abortions, infanticide, abandonment, etc were never uncommon.

Elevating the value of children is a very recent development in history. The modern concept of a superior parenting through devoting oneselves almost exclusively to the care of small children is, IMO, an example of th pendulum swinging from one extreme to the other.

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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 4:46pm
Thanks for the link. I never realized before how many schools were in the district, and what a huge demographic range is served. Must be awfully hard to administer. We're in the SD area, but not in the SD district.
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 4:47pm
I found my first visit to the Alamo very educational and moving. But living in San Antonio and ending up there everytime we had family visit it got pretty old.
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 8:16pm

I think that paying for poor performance is a good idea too. My dd was told that any class that she dropped would not be part of our financial responsibility either. We are paying a large portion of her college bills. She has a very pt job in the cafeteria at school and she will have student loans of about $8000 to pay back when she graduates. IMO, not too much to owe but enough contribution to mean something.

In our state, if you perform well on a standardized test that you take as a junior in high school you qualify for a $2500 scholarship to a state school. I was very disappointed by how many of the students who graduated with dd dropped classes during their first semester at college, largely because they had not "paid" for the class. The $2500 scholarship money seemed to make them a lot less inclined to stick out their classes.

Robin

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