Roles of the parent.
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Roles of the parent.
| Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am |
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Around here sending kids to a convent would land you a lawsuit regarding seperation of church/state. (Aside from the issues of transporting children outside of to/from) In other words- there's NO WAY that would happen if it were associated with a public school here. Frankly I'm rather surprised it would *anywhere*.
Wytchy
That all depends on how one is handling the teaching, (if one is standing up lecturing like a public school teacher- then yes- but that's often not how homeschooling parents operate) the ages of the students, subjects being covered (easier to teach multiole different aspects/levels of english than it is to teach one english, one math, another science at the same time etc.) Regardless, the POINT isn't that it's all the same and takes the same amount of time as teaching one child. The POINT is that it's far more similar than doing two completely different things. (Such as teaching and WOH.)
Wytchy
I never said that it was the same teaching one as it is teaching six. I said that teaching six is far more similar because teaching is teaching than trying to teach and do something totally different. It's far more similar for me to make a dozen different meals in my kitchen than it is for me to make one or two and try to tackle laundry and cleaning the bathroom at the same time.
Wytchy
***My kids go to publci school. The fourth grade trip is to Williamsburg - every year. I went to public school- the fourth grade trip was to Sturbridge Village- every year. I think it is more common than you think.***
Do you live nearby? What I mean to say is that it may be common if the school is located in close proximity to these places. I doubt very much that a california school is going to be taking yearly trips to DC for example. I'd agree that schools with larger budgets may well have the opportunity to do many of these things. However, not all schools are blessed with such budgets- even in relatively financially advantaged areas.
***...but they do particpate with the local nursing home. A class goes at least every week....Our JR and Senior High students have a requirement to do x hours a year of community service. Many choose to volunteer at the homeless shelters and food banks.***
That's great. I know when I was in school there were no such requirements. Maybe it was common elsewhere but it was unheard of in our area. I haven't heard of such requirements around here either, but then I haven't had reason to find out either ;) Maybe they do. I do think it's a Very Good Thing. :)
My main point is merely that homeschooling offers more by way of flexibility.
Wytchy
Really? It's the norm where I grew up and where we live now. I personally *don't* see the benefit, which is why I've asked how doing so in any way prepares one for the 'real world' (where one is *seldom* if *ever* grouped according to ones age plus or minus a year LOL ;)
Wytchy
I'll bet that's the difference. My graduating class had around 300. I can see where a larger school might have reason and be able to mix things up quite a bit more ;)
Wytchy
That's great. When I was going through school that was unheard of in our area and still hasn't made its way there. Around here there are *some* of those things, but with budgets as they are, it's certainly not a given.
For the once a year trips, it's often via fundraising that the kids find the funds to go- and personally I strongly disagree with the overzealous use of such fundraising. I've *always* got some poor kid knocking at my door selling wrapping paper, chocolate, cookie dough, *whatever* and much as I'd love to buy from each and every one of them- I don't think they should be put into the position to take up their time and the neighborhood's funds pimping out mostly useless crap. I've taken to just giving money to those kids I know and declining the rest. (I admit- I've been a sucker LOL) but it's just ridiculous how often these kids come around with this stuff. It got to the point where one month we spent $100 in crap from fundraisers- and that was only getting an obligatory trifle here and there LOL! (Yes- ----> "sucker")
As for the trips- around here it's almost always a ski trip or the amusement park and I am hard pressed to find the educational value in that. (Apart from physical education)...
Wytchy
LOL ;) I loved that episode. I also loved that she chose *not* to attend. ;)
Wytchy
Right. But just because one can't consider the end result *their* accomplishment (the quality of the work) does not IMO mean that one cannot hold a sense of accomplishment for:
*teaching responsibility
*teaching the importance of doing a good job and doing ones best
*providing the materials/time etc. to allow ones child *to* do their best
*being there if they need any help or assisting them in doing said best
I feel that the parents play a role in the process and as such, they can take pride *in* that role and feel a sense of accomplishment in doing their best in *their* role.
Wytchy
Impossible? Maybe in a very small school I guess. Ours had a graduating class of about 300/350. (Not nearly as big as PA's of 2000, but not exactly a one room school house ;) We were totally seperated (other than at lunch). That was the norm for all of the schools in the area. (Rural area- east) and is the norm around here (suburbs- midwest). Not saying that such is the case in every eastern rural or midwestern suburban area- just giving you an idea of where I'm talking about for reference.
Wytchy
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