SAH Dads Are Considered Child-Care?

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SAH Dads Are Considered Child-Care?
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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 3:39pm

If the dad is the stay-at-home parent, than the Census Bureau considers it to be child-care, versus if it was the mom at home:

“It’s not baby-sitting when Daddy does it.”

It’s been seven years, but I’ve never forgotten those words. My neighbor across the street was heading out for work, tall, well-dressed and ready. Her child, a few years older than mine, had just wailed, “But I don’t want Daddy to baby-sit!” She squashed that plaint like a bug, and five minutes later (I was pushing my son on the swing in their front yard) I saw her car head down the driveway.

It’s not baby-sitting when Daddy does it. Who wouldn’t agree with that? The U.S. Census Bureau, apparently. When both parents are present in the household, the Census Bureau assumes for the purposes of its “Who’s Minding the Kids?” report, that the mother is the “designated parent.” And when the designated parent is working or at school, the bureau would like to know who’s providing child care.

If the answer is Daddy, as it was 26 percent of the time when these numbers were last released, in 2005, and 32 percent of the time in 2010, the Census Bureau calls that “care.” But if Mom is caring for a child while Dad’s at work, that’s not a “child care arrangement,” but something else. Parenting, presumably.

You can read the rest of the NY Times article at: http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/02/08/the-census-bureau-counts-fathers-as-child-care/

Do you think that the gender norm is ever going to change that mom is the designated parent?

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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 5:41pm

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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 6:33pm

I'll just park my ditto here.

And to add, back in the dawn of the women's movement (the late 50s, early 60s), I don't remember mom calling it babysitting when she left us with dad.

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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 9:03pm
I'm pretty sure my husband is going to object to me sleeping with the baby sitter. If he ever indicated that his parenting responsibilities were baby sitting, I wouldn't be sleeping with him either.

We have children together and we are both parents. We both have strengths and weaknesses as parents, but we've reached a pretty good balance. It's even better now that we don't need outside child care with older children.
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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 1:54pm
I really don't understand why the Census Bureau needs to have a "designated parent" in a two-parent household.
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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 4:40pm
Until men can birth babies I think some gender stereoytpes will always exist, Lol. But I'm confused by what the census points out, should there be a designated term for SAHDs over SAHMs? I am the SAHP in our household but we are both parents, And DH has never called me our kids' primary childcare provider nor have I ever asked him to babysit them.

 


 


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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 8:03pm

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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 10:43pm

We have a different situation probably or I'm looking at the situation differently perhaps. I'm the primary parent in our household although I wouldn't call my husband the babysitter. I'm also the one who works two jobs and handles the family finances. I make most of the childcare decisions and neither my husband nor I would have any trouble calling me the "designated parent" on any forms out there. My phone number is first on the emergency contact form so I guess that's that.

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Wed, 02-15-2012 - 8:34am
Does your husband SAH? I am the designated/primary contact on emergency contact forms and I think school has three contact numbers for me before having to call my husband at his work.. I can think of probably two times DH was called at work because I couldn't be reached, And we've had kids in school for nine years now.

 

 

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Wed, 02-15-2012 - 10:34am

Dh is not a contact number on any emergency forms for Dylan simply because he can't be reached while at work.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett