SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

Statement in a post below.

I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 10:51am

Again it is coming down to the amount and frequency of the awards. The specific award I hand out happens once a quarter. The teachers give out their own things occassionally that have nothing to do with the PTO. All of the other awards are saved for the awards ceremony at the end. I can understand your point if there was someone up there daily or weekly but that is not the case.

And when you refer to parents "wandering" the halls, again, when I am there it is for a purpose. The PTO office is well into the building, and we have to "roam" to the teachers lounge to make copies, etc. There isn't a lot of aimless wandering. However, I also don't have to give an itinerary of exactly what I'll be doing the entire time I'm there.

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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 10:51am
I have never said and will never say that eliciting a desired behavior is a bad thing. It is the means that one uses to elicit that behavior that can be good or bad.
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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 10:53am
That sounds awfully close to saying if a child doesn't think it's junk...they must be really dumb. And here I thought we weren't attacking the kids. hmm.


Edited 9/22/2006 10:55 am ET by jabbymom
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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 10:53am

You can be both. You can be a parent who values education, instills that attending school everyday is im,portant, and will be sure that their child doesn't miss school not withstanding an illness or emergency. AND, at the very same time, you can be a parent who thinks attendance awards are utterly meaningless as a whole and completely misses the mark on what the intended goal is. Not to mention especially unfair to little johnny who had strep throat and missed a week of school but who otherwise would have had perfect attendance and received the award, but is now watchin all his healthy compadres receiving their awards.

It's an award that is based on luck. My son got one every month in Kinder until the school finally got a clue and stopped doing it. All I kept thinking about were the poor little kinders who DID'NT get the "award" because they were sick or their parent didn't care enough not to get them to schol. They had absolutly no control over this supposed "award" yet they were punished for illness or ignorant parents. How does that help a 5 year old?

My child knows it's VERY important to attend school and learn. An Attendance "award" doesn't fit anywhere in that equation.

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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 10:54am

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CAN be harmful. Who here hasn't agreed that it can be harmful if not used in moderation?

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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 10:55am
Who said anything about depriving children of fun?
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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 10:55am

Well....I guess I will follow this line of logic that keeps being used.

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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 10:56am
No. That's not true. Only supposed "awards" soley based on luck of not getting sick should be abolished.
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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 10:59am
And, let's reserve the acheivement awards to things such as honor society and trophys for winning the championship. Why do we need to reward EVERY SINGLE step of the way. It then makes the trophy meaningless.
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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 10:59am

Eleven. (It's tomorrow.)

Sunday is also the two year anniversary of the day I got sick, as it was the day after our anniversary two years ago that I woke up suddenly unable to walk.

In some ways, those two years seem much longer than the eleven years of marriage.

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