SAH doesn't support change,

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Registered: 05-08-2003
SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

Statement in a post below.

I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 2:29pm
They don't seem to be all that happy if you have to reward them to master the tasks. Why not offer more challenging tasks?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2003
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 2:29pm
exactly! Just like learning is more important, but the extras are.....extra. Hopefully, the food is extra in this case.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 2:30pm
Don't they have some kind of multi-age curriculum for highly gifted kids? Or are yours the only highly gifted kids in the district?
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 2:36pm
So if you have a lot of creatinve and meaningful ways to learn and have fun, why do your kids find school so long and monotonous? Because from the way you post, it sounds like your kids are stuck doing boring and repetitive tasks that are below their ability level, and the only thing that makes it all bearable is the occasional reward and public recognition. I was honestly starting to worry.
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 2:39pm

"Hopefully, the food is extra in this case."

You're right, hopefully.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 2:45pm
I agre. Incentive programs pose a risk toward developing the behaviors and attitudes that I want my child to absorb. That's why I am against them. They are not without harm.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 2:46pm
Hey, it wasn't me who took fifteen or so posts to understand how a plastic toy could get stuck in a gutter grate. Or was that person just sniping?
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 2:53pm
Here's the difference: I am not at school offering children my cookies and treats as a reward or incentive to get them to do what they are supposed to be doing anyway. I am not sending my children the message that the tasks they have to do at school are not worth doing on their own, but require some reward to make them bearable. It is beginning to souind like some kids ARE at places where the work isn't worth doing on its own. In that case, I can understand how you might have to fight to get the kids to do it.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 2:57pm
Um, of course the reason for celebrating the holiday and the people that you celebrate the holiday with are more important than the food that goes along with the holiday. But you said you didn't want your kids associating junk food with holidays. Are you telling me you have some way of ensuring that they don't associate candy with Trick-or-Treating, or a cake with a birthday party? Because to most kids, they are linked. Definitely.
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Registered: 06-02-2003
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 3:02pm
There's no difference. You are supposed to enjoy the holiday for reasons other than food. You shouldn't need the reward of cookies and baked goods to make the holiday bearable. Again, you seem to have gotten it into your head the the rewards are the only thing happening at school to make it fun. The rewards are infrequent and small, and used in conjunction with a fun, creative and interesting learning environment. Not EVERYTHING they do is rewarded. And we are not "fighting" to get our kids to do their work (at least I'm not), instead we are celebrating small milestones along the way OCCASSIONALLY.

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