SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

Statement in a post below.

I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 10:21pm
It's in here somewhere. You seem to have the time to find all my old posts, you go look for it. I don't have the time to search.
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 10:23pm
There are always goals to attain to - higher grades, scholarships. I don't think I will have a problem keeping my kids motivated.
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 10:32pm

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And those bigger things are always something most kids reach for - high grades, etc. You won't want your kids to go for the highest grade, etc possible? You would be happy as long as they came home and said, "Well, I feel good about the work that I did today." That simply won't be good enough for me. I want my children to set a goal for themselves and then work hard to reach that goal. Something as vague as a "good education" isn't enough - I want my kids to have a narrower goal in sight. I know far too many kids who have the "I want a good education" plan - and they take all the easy classes. Whereas the kids I know that have the "I have a high goal to obtain to" are usually the ones in the AP classes, etc. That is what I want for my kids and we are on track for that.

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Dh and I read constantly, our kids watch next to no television, we don't own any kind of video games, we have books everywhere - everything just like you. My kids would much rather play basketball, ride their bikes, jump on the trampoline. They have the more active personalities and sitting for extended periods of time are simply not in their genetic make-up. We have books on every single topic imaginable to man - they will read for 20 minutes then need to get up and move around. I am simply not going to kill one area of their personality to please people who have a problem with a system that has my children reading way above their grade level. Not gonna happen.

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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 10:37pm

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Do you know where your children's reading level is? IMO, reading ability is way more important than love of reading. Three of my kids didn't like to read, so if I did things your way, they would still be in the below reading level. Doing things our way, we have them reading way above their reading level - my 1st grader reads at a 4 grade level, my 3rd grader reads at a 7th grade level, my kindergartener is reading at a 2nd grade level. Knowing how to read and knowing how to read WELL is way more important than loving to read. If their levels drop, I will be concerned. I want them to know how to read more than love to read.

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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 10:40pm
No, it would be predictable if the cut-off was always on the 15th of every month, or if they had to have the same number of points, or if they even have one at all. It is random and every child has a different goal. Nothing predictable about it.
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 10:42pm
That doesn't mean you heard them talk about it at school. Our principals and teachers give consent for a lot of "baseball" days but that doesn't stop them from really wishing parents wouldn't do it.
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 10:44pm
They give up something that they like for something else that they like. If they didn't like the challenges and the awards they get through KLUE, they wouldln't give up something else that they like.
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 11:04pm

Because they would have been insensitive even if her mother were still alive. I've explained it more than once and even gave you an analogy.

And yes, I am *quite* aware you are completely in the dark about how that could possibly be the case.

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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 11:07pm

Would you prefer that people thought you were knowingly insensitive? I was simply giving you the benefit of the doubt.

I'll happily retract and speak only for myself - you are correct that I do not know if there are those who believed, even after you stated otherwise, that you were being deliberately insensitive.

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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 11:29pm
Hey, guess what? My mother is 71 years old and doesn't have lung cancer. Smoking two packs a day (since she was 16) helps calm her down and keeps her weight at a manageable level. Smoking seems to "work" for her. I don't much care what researchers and scientists say about the dangers of smoking cigarettes because so far, none of it has come true for my mother. I don't get why people make such a fuss over smoking anyhow.

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