SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

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I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 6:37pm
I agree.

Sabina

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Tue, 08-29-2006 - 6:41pm
I'll let you in on a little secret.

Sabina

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Tue, 08-29-2006 - 6:52pm

Most women continue working after they have children, so why would a boss assume a woman would quit to SAH? Can't bosses understand what they see everyday on the job - that most mothers continue working? Are all bosses not too smart?

<> Why should I not SAH *even if* you think it hurts your chances? Can you explain what you have done for SAHMs in your lifetime that we owe you, say, 5 or more years of our families' lives?

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Tue, 08-29-2006 - 6:56pm

I think this is the first time I have ever agreed with a word you have said. I'm a SAHM to 6 and I don't work with my kids either, at least not in the sense of sitting down and teaching them things. Sure we count and play ABC games, simple everyday stuff, but my 1 child so far that learned to read before kindergarten did it totally on his own. He's in 2nd grade reading at 7th grade level(I swear he must have been switched at birth). My oldest couldn't count to 20 before Kindergarten but by the end of the year was counting to 100.

I have no vested interest in my kids performance except they need to do well cause mommy and daddy aren't providing a free ride to college.

Amy

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Tue, 08-29-2006 - 7:34pm
Yeah that's about when I stopped dealing with them. Come to find out its a heritary issue and I was the same way. They told me that there was no way any baby could ever be alergic to breast milk. But he's a happy healthy 6 year old now who is no worse for wear...Well exept for all the stiches, broken teeth, broken finger and such. (Football,jumping out of tree's, running into a concret bbq pit, jumping his bike etc)
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Tue, 08-29-2006 - 7:39pm

Broader change begins at home. As long as women, willingly, take over on the home front, we're not likely to get there.

Like it or not, one way to force the issue is to get a job. Then dad has no choice but to do more. Not that it gets equal. I read a piece a while back where they talked about mens attitudes and how much housework they did. If a man believed he shoudln't do housework, he did less and his wife did more. If he believed he should do housework, his wife did less but he didn't do more, lol.

I think it's hard to push for equal parenting when one parent is viewed as the primary parent.

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 7:40pm

LOL, I can read. And statistically speaking there is a significant decline in breast feeding in the first 6 months so citing a decline in the number of WM's bfing is kind of silly because it's true across the board.

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 7:44pm

Why would my circle be different from the norm? Is there something about educated women that makes them produce more milk?

What percentage of women have trouble producing milk? I'll admit I don't know but I know a few dozen women who have pumped at work (we shared a pumping station so we knew each other) and none did. I find it very odd that some high percentage of women have issues yet I have yet to meet one.

I'm not saying there aren't women who have issues just that I don't think they happen that frequently. Mother nature would breed for women capable of meeting their babies needs in all kinds of situations. Today with good nutrition and excellent health compared to prior generations, I would think we'd have fewer problems.

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Tue, 08-29-2006 - 7:47pm

Well my DH makes less then 70K a year and supports 8 of us. It's not always easy but we make it and 4 of my kids go to private school which costs us more a month then our house payment.

I think it depends on where you live(COL) and how you spend your money.

Amy

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Tue, 08-29-2006 - 7:47pm
Most people recognize that generalizing any group of people is foolish and the same thing as prejudice. I am sure some people use that same lack of logic that you use to justify prejudice against other races.

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