SAH doesn't support change,

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2003
SAH doesn't support change,
3723
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

Statement in a post below.

I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2004
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 9:44pm
I'm not a big fan of going to the doctor myself anyway. ;) As for going to school, there is plenty of money out there in grants, scholarships, even student loans that a person such as myself would be more than able to get her hands on. You'd be surprised what you can do when you HAVE to do it, like making X amount of money last.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2004
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 9:50pm
We've planned for accident, illness, death already, for now. We'll need a new plan next year. I know that I'd be more than capable of taking care of myself & Corbin if Corey were to inexplicably leave. However, that isn't even a remote possibility in our relationship, not in my eyes. The outsider can think what they want about how likely it is for us to divorce and how lost I'd be if we did... but I really don't put much stock into it. The only reason we didn't live together first is because he'd have had to live in a dorm if we weren't married, so we figured why wait ;) Two and a half years later I still think we made the right choice, and I'm sure I will still feel that way in twenty years.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 9:50pm

"We do have fewer problems compared to older generations, but the problems are still exist and are real."

Oh - and what has *your* experience been as an educated woman who worked and breastfed?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2003
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 9:54pm

I know what you're trying to say...but I'm sorta in the middle on this issue. I'm very sentimental. When my youngest lost his first tooth, I almost cried.

(I even saved my EPT test stick for awhile (from my first pg), but finally threw it away when it turned brown....ewww)

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2003
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 10:01pm

One of my friends that I mentioned (who does the scrapbooking, etc.) is SO organized that she drives everyone around her crazy with the "time schedules." We all walk around with our drink glasses because we're afraid to put them down 'cuz she'll put them in the dishwasher.

We went to her son's bday party and, I swear, the minute the last guest left, she sat down and starting writing thank you notes. (We were on vacation and staying with them.) I asked her why didn't she just hand them to the guests as they left ;).

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2004
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 10:02pm
I have met some 18 year olds who are more mature and ready for marriage than some 30 year olds, so you point is? Some people are never ready for the commitment and hard work that marriage entails, some people are ready at 25 and, yes, I have seen some people ready at 18. My parents were married at 18 - they just celebrated their 49th anniversary, my sister and brother in law were married at 19 - they just celebrated their 20th anniversary and renewed their marriage vows. Maybe it is different cultures, maybe it is different upbringings, but I have seen marriages between 18 and 19 year olds that last longer and are stronger than marriages of 25 or even 35 year olds.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-31-2005
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 10:04pm

Thanks! This is exactly the type of material I was looking for.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2004
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 10:05pm
That is not necessarily a bad thing. Why do a lot of WOHM's make it out to be?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 10:18pm
Okay - I've kept my sticks. But they are not in a cute box with lettering and cut-out shapes and baby bottles. And my kids first haricuts are in envelopes with their names and dates as are their first teeth they lost. But I'm just not into decorating them, kwim?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-06-2006
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 11:01pm

Go to a grocery store and try to categorize people by whether or not they had a WM when they were a child. Can you tell the difference?

I have read studies going into young adulthood. Not recently though and I don't know if they're available on line. However, several studies that have found differences have found that they wash out by the end of elementary school. If the differences get smaller as kids get older and diminsih to the point they're not enough difference for the average person to tell by the end of 6th grade, why would anyone think that they come back later?

Not surprisingly, the biggest differences are seen in the younger years. As kids get older, differences disappear. I only know of one that is long lasting and that is a self esteem boost for the dd's of WM's who also have higher educational goals and attainment.

Pages