SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

Statement in a post below.

I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:09am
WOHM's can be sappy too.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:18am

I'm sure that balance in marriage thing happens all the time, but OTOH it can also be considered an old cliche meant to disguise the fact that some marriages actually are unbalanced wrt each spouse's place in the world.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:21am
But when it occurs to the exclusions of one's own health the gains are outweighed by the losses. I doubt it's in the best interest of families for Mums to die prematurely.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:23am

Yes, there are and it's expensive and usually has a large deductable. Where does that fit into your $1300/month budget? And why would you buy life insurance (your post above indictaes taht you would cash out a life insurance policy in the event of illness) and disability (which is ungodly expensive for an individual to purchase, but not buy health insurance?

Susan

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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:25am
What? Are you saying that putting others first causes moms to die prematurely? I certainly haven't advocated putting others first to the point it sacrifices health, so I don't see the point you are trying to make here.
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Registered: 06-30-2006
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:25am
A WOHM isn't the only positive role model.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:28am
I like the idea of volunteer work. I like to give my time without expecting something in return...that is truly giving,imo.
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:32am

It can. As I said, to the exclusion of one's health. When women on this very board were criticized for having the audacity for scheduling time at the gym after work, then I think the attitude *on the board* (not yours in particular) absolutely suggests that Moms are expected to drop everything for "child time" after work. That's neither rational nor reasonable.

YOUR post specifically didn't suggest it, but there's a prevailing attitude in the thread along those lines--among *some* posters.

"people matter" is good. So is "I matter." Both do best in moderation.

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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:35am
That makes sense and I agree.:-)
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:36am

Maybe it's related certain professions?

I live in a middle/upper middle/wealthy area, and I've never heard any of this talk about SAH being a status symbol. Membership in certain yacht clubs, what size/how many boats you have, neighborhood you live in - sure. But having a SAH? Nope. Here it cuts across all class lines. Most of my SAHM friends have spouses who work in sales, middle management, federal govt positions. Sure, I know a few whose spouses are lawyers and doctors, but none that I'm close friends with - perhaps in their social circles it's different.

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