SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

Statement in a post below.

I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:38am
Where did I cite a decline in the number of WMs breasfeeding? You must be confusing me with someone else.
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Registered: 03-27-2000
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:56am

I'm not sure what she meant by that comment about not being a fan of going to the doctor, but as far as having insurance - YIKES! I couldn't live without it.

This past spring, we thought our 3 y/o had a sprained ankle (doctor's diagnosis, though my mother, a nurse, kept telling me she thought it was a skin infection and to insist on further testing - good thing for grandma's intuition LOL). Turns out he had a staph infection that got into a bone in his foot - right in the joint. Emergency surgery, four days in the hospital, two months of home IV antibiotics and another month of oral antibx, plus weekly visits to Children's Hospital in DC for several months, we have paid quite a bit of money AFTER insurance to cover all the related costs. I can't even imagine how someone living paycheck to paycheck would have been able to pay these completely unexpected expenses. The doctors have no idea how he got the infection as there were no obvious entry points his body - the infectious disease specialist said that it was all a matter of luck and he was just unlucky! (Then about two weeks ago it was all over the press about the rise in staph infections resistant to antibx so I'm so glad he didn't have that kind!). He has to be monitored for the next two years to ensure that the infection did not affect his growth plate :(

Our experience was minor in terms of costs compared to what someone who has been in a serious accident, or has cancer, etc would have to pay. Hopefully, we'll never have to find out.....

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:58am

"Everything varies case to case. Every person is different, so is every situation. I can't tell you what I'd do in a certain situation without knowing all the details."

Interesting....in the breastfeeding thread your centeral arguemunt is - anecdotes are irrelevant, only stats and research are informative. ("...why don't you prove those hardships don't exist with something other than "Well, gee, everyone I know had an easy time with it!" Give me some real statistics and research...). So, in *this* topic, the stats and research are celar - teen marriages are ill-advised and likley to fail. And children of teen moms and who end up single are the most likley segment of the population to live in poverty.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:00am

"rather than just acting with a "What would you know? You SAH!" kind of attitude. :)"

Believe me, my attitude toward you has *nothing* to do with your SAH ;-)

It was your choice to use the term "we" to which I calling attention.

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:02am

Do you realize how expensive insurance is for self-employed people? I do, as a couple of my neighbors are self-employed and told me what they paid per month for their families.

And even with insurance, there are still medical expenses that aren't going to be covered, or for which you will have to pay co-pays, deductibles, etc.

See my post to laura - we just dealt with a serious illness with our 3 y/o that required surgery, hospitalization and follow up treatment. We have very good insurance, but we still had to pay quite a bit out of pocket due to all the co-pays we racked up (from weekly visits for follow-up care for three months), plus a couple of emergency room visits that were $50 each. A three month supply of IV medication was also not cheap....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:35am
My sister is a great example of that. We had a sahm and she has a double major in Japanese and international business and law and is now in the navy becomming a Nuc. Go figure. And prior to my husband telling me he was thinking about getting out of the navy I was looking into med school. Although now thats changed and I am just going to go to nursing school so I can get my degree faster.
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:41am
This is one of the biggest reason's that I dont want my husband to get out of the military. Even though the boarder patrol offeres health insurance it is not going to be as good as what we have now. And with my oldest son(who has been to every ER in every state we have lived in and a few we have traveled though) he seems to always need medical care. He at 6 has already had a broke finger(jumping out of a tree), 6 sets of stiches (jumping his bike and sticking his fingure into a Juicy Juice can), a concusion(again jumping his bike), a second degree burn(funning though the kitchen in socks as I was cooking),and 5 broken teeth(running into a concrete bbq pit at my sisters wedding reception) And I am sure there will be more in the years to come.
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:43am

I don't think it does either. I actually kept more when I worked (first child). I took 4/5 rolls of film a month for him, etc.

I thought the exchange above was directed at SAHs and keeping house. Thanks for clarifying.

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 9:14am

There's no proof that the daughters of working women have higher self-esteem, etc. Like pretty much everything else, it depends on each individual situation.

From what I've read, it's more "role satisfaction," and that doesn't have anything to do with working status.

Besides, we all know you can take a study and interpret it any way you want to support your claim. ;)

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 9:38am

"Regardless, I don't anticipate my husband running off with a red-headed harlot anytime soon. ;)"

Alot of women don't anticipate it, but it does happen!

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