SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

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I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 1:35pm
The "mommytrack" is a term for abandoning the "career track" in favor of a more flexible work schedule. Instead of doing what's required to advance (such as high "facetime", overtime, heavy travel) the worker opts for a less demanding work load/schedule in order to have more work/life balance.
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 1:36pm
Why not? Why should only parents strive for work/life balance? Not everyone wants to be CEO.
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 1:37pm
Balderdash. Substitute any racial stereotype into those comments to see just how absurd that train of thought is.
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 2:28pm

In a 5 month span in 2004, I had a hysterectomy, our 4 year old DS had Kawasaki's disease and was hopsitalized for 3 days and required follow-up care with a cardiologist for 2 months, and DH had a minor stroke for which he got the million-dollar work-up. Everything ended up fine - my surgery was uneventful, DS recovered with no lasting heart damage, and DH's stroke was probably related to a very minor birth defect in his heart so all he needs is aspirin. But the expenses of each of those events was probably in the range of 20k, combined 60k.

I can't even count up our out of pocket expenses - even with pretty good insurance coverage (I'm a fed employee).

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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 2:34pm

That would be nice. There are only 5 medical schools in Texas. I trained at one. Interviewed at another, but did not get an offer. And we did not want to live in Houston or Lubbock. That was it for the entire state.

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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 2:44pm

You're right - you can probably "survive". But that's not where most people run into trouble. Problems arise from the things you *don't* put into your budget - like medical expenses, car repairs, your washing machine breaking, title insurance for your car, vet bills, calling a repairman, paying lawyer's fees, etc etc etc.

With public assistance and family, you could do your best and probably get by. But there would be no room for error. And no room for savings to fall back on or to stay ahead with. That's when one or two or three of those unbudgeted expenses can make the difference between keeping your head above water and sinking.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 3:02pm
If I were to divorce, my life would change much less than yours would.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 3:05pm
I wouldn't want to rely on the financial generosity of family just so I could SAH and say I didn't miss any firsts.

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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 3:29pm
I'll ask you too:

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 3:35pm

Yes, I miss a lot.

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