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SAH doesn't support change,
| Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm |
"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"
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I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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"I've forgotten, is your DH on an 75% or 80% schedule also?"
He's not. But I was thinking more that he tends to put in, more or less, an average of 40 hours per week (which is officially 100%) and takes his full 7-9 week vacation every year. That's probably positively slacker work hours by most people's standards :-). We talked about him going officially to 80 or 90%, but he'd still end up working more hours because he does a lot of research and reading at home and tends to work a bit longer when I'm home. So we figured it wasn't worth it since he would just end up being paid less for the same amount of work.
I'm officially 80%, but I probably work closer to 100% too, so we probably end up putting in similar hours. Part of our problem with work is that neither of us is very good at defining the end of the working day. I'll often spend extra time on the computer when the kids are in bed or busy doing homework/practicing piano just because there's stuff that needs to be done and the work is in front of my nose. Dh is quite similar: he does go in at nights or weekends sometimes if that works best with the experiments he's planned, and he's always got some reading to catch up on in the evenings.
Since when did being a SAHM mean that you must be "working with them" all day long? I think we've posted what we do on a daily basis several times on this board that you don't really need another run down.
On a typical day in our house, my preschool age kids have a lot of free play, indoor and outdoor, playdates, we read together, they nap (occasionally my 3 y/o does, but my 18 m/o always does), we are in the car doing drop off/pick up at the older ones school, eat breakfast, lunch, snacks. During the school year, my 3 y/o is at school twice a week in the morning. He doesn't have much of an attention span right now, so reading his favorite books is about all we do in terms of learning the alphabet, colors, etc. He is taught that at school, plus we have a variety of toys that encourage that type of learning (puzzles, shape sorters, etc). I have never really "worked" with my kids on that type of stuff.
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I see; as a WOHP, I wouldn't be able to do any of those things.
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Why would you or anyone do that if you didn't want to?
Sabina
Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
It's unlikely that your children would understand that you were "mommytracked". They'd just see you going to work, and know that you are an attorney. If you worked at a company, you would probably work pretty normal hours for the company. Your children might come to understand that attorneys at that company work less than attorneys at your DH's firm, but as they would see men and women working at both places they would be unlikely to realize that you had "mommytracked" yourself. If you were of-counsel at a firm instead of partner, they probably wouldn't have any idea what that means. Lots of adults don't know the distinction of titles at a law firm.
Do you really believe that the only way to model working is by working very long hours?
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