SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

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I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:14pm
And here we are back to the "SAHMs" can't be valuable role models thing.
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Registered: 08-16-2004
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:15pm
Really? I have several friends who run their own businesses, have HMOs, etc., and I don't know a single person that pays $750 a month for it--even the ones that are self-employed. :)
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:16pm
Well, my mother didn't feel that way, and I doubt I would be crushed at my daughter following her heart.
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:16pm

Gotcha. I guess I'm a bad mom then b/c I don't really "work with" my ds at all. Unless of course I'm misunderstanding what that really means. We read and play games, but I'm not sitting there with flash cards of the alphabet and shapes, etc. trying to get him to learn. We read books and play games but I'm not worried about it. The interesting thing is that my dd knew the entire alphabet by sight just a few months after she turned 2 y/o. I don't really recall exactly when Dominic learned it, but sometime b/w 2 and 3 y/o I think. Joey isn't even close, but I know in due time he'll get it. It's amazing to see the differences with each child and how quickly they learn something. Dominic has learned things much more quickly than Marie - I honestly think he wants to be able to do everything she can do. He just started kindergarten this week (WAHHHHHH!) and he's already reading at the same level as Marie was at the beginning of first grade. And when I'm asking her math problems, he often shouts out the answer before she does even though he hasn't even taken math yet. I have a feeling Joey is going to be at a much slower pace - he's not interested in sitting still long enough.

Does Peter start second grade next week? My kids started this past Monday. Marie was somewhat ambivalent about going back, but Dominic is so excited to be in school. He practically jumps out of bed and gets his uniform on, while I have to drag Marie out of bed. His first sentence when I picked him up on Monday was "School is fun!" If only he could have that attitude for the next 13+ years! I can't believe he is in kindergarten already. Two down, two to go.

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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:17pm
I wouldn't be responsible for any daycare if he was being watched by relatives. I have considered the "what if's" and just because you don't approve of my approach doesn't mean it's invalid.
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Registered: 08-16-2004
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:20pm
I already said I could survive with plenty left over to cover all of those problems. Also, having money saved can offset those issues as well. The point is you don't have to have a degree & a full-time career to be able to take care of yourself and your children. I've never needed public assistance and probably never will, and I've never leaned on my family for financial support and probably never will. Just because you couldl't make a small sum of money go along way doesn't mean no one can.
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:23pm
I never said I would go back to live with my parents, did I? Only that I'd move near them and that my mother would be thrilled at the oppertunity to spend larger amounts of time with her grandson. That your life would change much less than mine doesn't really bother me. I'm not afraid of change or of a challenge. I'm not going to go get a degree that I MAY use for a career that I don't really want just in case my husband, who is a very dedicated and loving man, runs away. I also think it's ridiculous that I'm being forced to explain to you how I'd survive in that unlikely and very personal situation. The fact of the matter is, whether you believe it or not, whether it stands up to you, I'd be just fine with or without a degree as long as I worked hard, used the resources available to me, long enouhg to get a degree and starta better career. I don't care if you approve. :)
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:23pm
Neither would I, and I wouldn't have to. ;)
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:25pm
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Registered: 08-16-2004
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:26pm
Subservient? LOL. My husband would fall over laughing and probably have a heart attack.

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