SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

Statement in a post below.

I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:13am
Very good point. That is one of the areas we can't just take a break from. Even working full time we're behind on something to do with software every day! ;) I am a software developer and I think not qualifying for maternity leave because of my contract status saved my career. I can easily WAH and keep up with what is happening at the places I work for and I have even learned some new things while at home.
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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:21am
ROFL! Nobody's automatically exempt there based on work status. But it's a lot harder to pull it off as a WOHP. Unless, of course, you have just the right nanny ;-)
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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:26am

You're right that's not something other sahms need worry about.

Did you say you work in speech? Do you have many male speech therapists up there? Down here, it's all women. And a friend in the speech therapy business works wonderful Mommytrack hours - Fridays off. Kinda nice.

So I was wondering if you worry your DDs will be limited by gender stereotypes in *choice* of their fields of employment because of yours and your DH's professions? That would be more my fear.

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:27am
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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:32am
that is true, I should have clarified that it depends on the career.

Dj

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:38am
Which is why I said similar, not exact. And sure, there could be things you've experienced that I havent (I've never gone bungee jumping, lol), but I would venture to guess that my range of experience, based on the life I've led combined with my age, is much broader at this point. Which is totally expected and normal, but also explains why your view of the real world and mine are quite different.

Dj

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:47am

Correct, I'm in a female-dominated profession. I never claimed to be living any kind of a fully loaded new age scenario wrt gender questions. My kids might also wonder why I get stuck with most of the housework, too. We have our work cut out for us working toward gender balance at our place.

But as to mommytracking, I'm pretty busy every day, often more than 40 hours per week , what with all the professional development requirements and meetings. I do get substantial vacations, though.

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:47am

Well, you did specifically use the word "better" in saying woh is the better way to model a work ethic and how to earn a buck to our DDs.

I think Take-our-daughter/sons to work day is a possible way for kids/teens to have an inside perspective of the different careers out there, though not how hard all of you wohps work diligently each and every day. Remote access is another great way these days. Seeing a parent with 2 monitors and a lap top in the home office sure gives kids an insider's view to what goes on at work!

But I doubt any child can fully understand employment until on the job.

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:51am
I actually agree with the concept of doing what you love workwise-at least to some degree. But I dont agree with the idea of following ones heart romantically to the point of ignoring taking care of ones own future.

Dj

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:54am

<> I didn't say that either. But if you're concerned with work status when women sah, why wouldn't you be *equally* worried that your DDs won't get the proper exposure to traditionally male-dominated professions when you are in a female-dominated one?

I think both are a waste of time to spend a minute sincerely worrying about.

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