SAH doesn't support change,

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Registered: 05-08-2003
SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

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I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:54am

Actually, there is scientific evidence to back up the notion that an 18yo doesnt really know who they are yet. Brain development doesnt *finish up* until about age 22-24. Between the ages of 14-20 its thought that our brains go through as much development and changes as they do during those formative 0-5 years.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 11:08am

It depends on the type of insurance, but even if its only $2-300 a month, thats going to eat quite a chunk out of your $1300.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 11:08am

I agree. Basically, all a child really sees you modeling is getting in your car and driving to work. I've told my son all my previous job, but I don't think he understands employment either.

And, I find it interesting that *some* of the WOHs on this board claim they're influencing their children by their working, but also claim that little of what we do makes a difference.

As far as how to earn a buck, giving a child allowance and teaching him/her how to allocate is a good way. We also have an "Allowance" game that, besides being fun to play, shows kids how spending/saving/interest earned makes a diff in how much money you have in the bank.

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 11:13am
LOL....I so agree with that stmt.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 11:14am

Didn't say I wasn't concerned about *all* the various gender-related questions of work and family. It's just that WOHM's was more or less the topic and not particular fields of endeavor.

As far as what to worry about, IMO issues of gender balance within families are at least as deserving of hand wringing and soul searching as questions of breastfeeding, home schooling, and the nature of birthday parties.

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 11:16am
I've only held two real jobs in my life (I don't count McDonalds when I was a teen ;), and, while I enjoyed both of them, I enjoy SAH more. Jobs come and go, but kids don't stay little forever. It seems like yesterday I was rocking my first and he's going to be 9yo next week.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 11:25am

Nope, this time my nose is clean; I said "none better", and not "is better". But those who don't read carefully are routinely flummoxed by this distinction, and the ad industry capitalizes on it bigtime. For example, what is meant by "Nothing beats a great pair of L'eggs!"? That a great pair of L'eggs is just as good as anything else, or that a great pair of L'eggs is better than anything else? I rest my case.

As to Take Our Daughters to Work and so on, ITA. But first there has to be a job, right? I agree, a kid can't fully understand work until they're on the job, but they can pick up a lot of attitudes about it well before that, for better or for worse. If we extended that analogy to all of the things we try to teach them, there wouldn't be much point in trying to teach them anything.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 11:31am
Actually just because you have joint custody it does not mean that one xspouse does not pay the other child support. The parents incomes are considered and often one will pay the other child support. Many times people will fight for joint custody under the mistaken assumption that they will not then have to pay child support. At least this is speaking for divorce in my area - NJ
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 11:33am
It's nice for you to be able to do as you please. I can't say I've ever felt like I'd rather be with my kids FT than to do anything else. But if I did, then that's what I would do.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 11:36am
....and don't forget the perennial favorite, how 99.9% of all nannies are inferior caregivers.

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