SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

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I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 1:56pm
I agree with many of your points here DJ, but I take issue with the idea that we finish developing who we are at a given point. I think as years go by we get a better picture of who we are, but as I age my interests change.I think thats true for many people.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 2:20pm
I agree, just about anyone can do the helicopter thing if they try. But don't you think a WOHM would have to try harder?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 3:21pm

That's the central conundrum: how to give each lifestyle choice the respect it deserves.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 3:24pm

Do you mean preparation in terms of education and work experience, or in terms of savings and investments?

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 3:52pm

how could pumping while or especially after nursing help if, as you claim, pumping is less efficient than breastfeeding--if a pump can't or likely won't take as much or more than a baby will?

When babies are hungry, they are more efficient than pumps. However, eventually baby gets full, and the only thing left to do to increase your supply is pump. Pumping INSTEAD of feeding does not help. Pumping during a feeding or after one means that you get the efficiency of the baby's suckle, then the extra expressing from the pump. Pumping along with breastfeeding is an extra 'oompf.' Pumping instead of it is not. If you don't believe me, ask a nurse, lactation consultant, or even a doctor. And my expertise about pumping doesn't just come from the CDC, BabyTalk magazine, etc. It also comes from my own experiences, the experiences I've heard from others, and what the doctors and nurses in the hospital DIRECTLY told me about pumping and nursing. Pumping WHILE nursing or AFTER nursing means all the milk the baby wants is expressed, then a bit more from the pump. Pumping INSTEAD of nursing doesn't get near as much milk out as baby nursing, nor does it work to increase your supply because the power of the suckle is not as strong. That may not make sense to you, lol, but it's the truth. You can keep telling me how it's contradictory and blah blah, but ask any nurse or lactation consultant (you know, someone who actually knows something about nursing), and they'll tell ya the same. That you don't understand doesn't mean it's untrue.

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 3:54pm
Because they didn't plan. My point isn't that every single mother is going to do fantastic. My claim is that there are many ways to plan to overcome an undesirable situation. And again, for the last time, I don't care if YOU think it's realistic. I know who I am, what I'm capable of, and what my expenses are. Thanks. :)
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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 3:56pm

My husband's steady paycheck, health, and retirement benefits are enough for us right now, and we'll have stock and options later on. I don't need them personally.

I'm glad that your situation works out so well, but not every situation is so peachy. Just because you have a nice boss and a job that's close by doesn't mean everyone will. I'm glad you have a job that you'd miss, but once again, I don't feel I'm missing anything. Stock options and a nice boss don't compare to the satisfaction I get from being with my son.

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 3:57pm
To an extent it does explain our differences, but there's also the fact that we are different people with different environments, families, personalities, lives. We could go through the exact same experiences but still come out with different perspectives!
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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 3:59pm
Well, I'm sorry you don't agree with my decision to follow my heart romantically because I chose not to go to college or my plans to encourage my children to chase their dreams so long as they aren't abandoning reason....Well, wait, actually, I'm not sorry. It's just a sort of *shrug* Oh, well thing, really.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 4:00pm
Your "plan" doesn't include any short or long term savings to prevent you from being in the impoverished single mom group.

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