SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

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I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Registered: 08-05-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 4:03pm
I sure hope your cavalier attitude doesn’t come back to bite you in the butt later on. Because I am all for my children being happy, but telling them that college can just be 'put off' is risky, you never know what could happen.
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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 4:03pm

Oh, it doesn't? *checks her savings account balance* Wow. I had to enter a password to access that information. How did you find out what was in my savings account without me telling you...?

I have savings, and if I didn't have enough money working 4 days a week to continue saving money, guess what? I could just work MORE than 4 days a week, like most working people do. ;)

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 4:03pm
That doesn't mean that every 18 year-old out there is clueless as to who they are and what they want. I've been married almost 3 years and am still quite happy with my decisions. I'm a bit different than I was then, mostly because of motherhood, but I'm still pretty much the same person overall.
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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 4:05pm
I think you're confusing "If my 18 year old is engaged to get married to a man who already has a career and doesn't wish to go to college just yet, I'll encourage her to follow her heart" with "I'm going to encourage my daughters their whole lives to never go to college and have them graduate, work @ McDonald's, and live at home until they happen to meet Mr. Right."
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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 4:07pm
Then I imagine I'll work more than 4 days a week, 5 hours a day, to compensate. Once again, I'm basing that amount on what my husband gets working 20 hours a week running deliveries. If he can make that much doing it, I'm sure I can, too. And if I need to make more, I can work more. 20 hours a week really isn't much, so I could always step it up to earn a few extra hundred dollars.
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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 4:08pm

I'm not confusing the 2. I know that people can go to college at any time in their lives. But I'm just saying something could happen and you might not be able to afford the tuition or the spare time to go, and it *could* be risky just putting it off.

From these threads, women have said they have gone back to college, or their moms had gone back, after children to change or improve their careers. But I really have to disagree with just putting college off. Its a decision that person could come to regret later.

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 4:11pm

There are student loans, federal grants, scholarships, and whatnot available, and as long as I encourage my daughters to do well (as I did), that will be available to them.

My mother has never regretted not going to college, and I don't think I will either--especially as I'm laying there on my death bed, remembering my life.

And as I've said before, my doors will always be open to my children, whatever mistakes they make, and rather than say "I told you so," I will just be there for them.

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 4:52pm

At this point, I must interject.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 5:28pm
Well, I don't understand why anyone can think of it as entirely necessary, if you have a worthy alternative. I also don't think it's NECESSARY for one to go right away or at a certain time in life. I just disagree. I think that everyone is a much better judge of what they need in their own lives than a stranger. I won't feel like I've failed as a parent if my kids take their own paths that don't lead them in the direction society might have wanted them to take. It's just a difference of perspective and opinion, I suppose. I don't need a college degree to be a good wife and mother, and I don't need to want a career to succeed as an adult. If I want a career later, I can start on that path when I'm ready. I think we should all be ready and sure of what we want before we go after it.
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Registered: 03-12-2005
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 5:29pm

What difference does it make if their is one universal kind of sahm or wohm?

Sahds would benefit working women in the same way sahms benefit working men. An example; if more men stayed at home to support their wives in the workforce, women would have more freedom to devote their attention to their careers.

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