SAH doesn't support change,

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Registered: 05-08-2003
SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

Statement in a post below.

I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Registered: 10-31-2005
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 5:39pm

"I don't need a college degree to be a good wife and mother"

No, but you are greatly reducing your own son's statistical chances of going to college. If he's going to support a SAH wife/kids and have a satisfying career, he's more likely to do so with a college degree.

I've never met someone who regretted his/her college degree, but I've met plenty of people who wish they would have completed a degree while they were young and untied to mortgages, etc.

Here's one place I agree with kbmammm, who says owning books is more important than reading to kids for improving reading skills in youngsters. I don't agree with her on that, but I can extend her logic to this situation. Having a degree shows a belief in the importance of education, regardless of whether or not you USE your education or not. That transfers to your child/ren, and so on.

Just like your mother, who didn't have a degree, raised a daughter who doesn't think a degree is important despite all evidence to the contrary.

If you want the BEST for your children, you'd get the degree, even more so if your husband doesn't have a college education either. The chances of your kids completing college educations if neither of their parents have a degree is pretty slim.

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 5:56pm

"No, but you are greatly reducing your own son's statistical chances of going to college. If he's going to support a SAH wife/kids and have a satisfying career, he's more likely to do so with a college degree."

Right, I am making my son not go get a college degree simply because I don't have one and have my own dreams and goals. Okay. And because, if he wants to join the military rather than go to college, or something of that sort, I'd support him, I'm lowering his chances of ever going to college. And that's so terrible. Because no one can have a good life without a college degree. No one can be a good role model without one! *eyeroll*

'Having a degree shows a belief in the importance of education, regardless of whether or not you USE your education or not. '

I think having a diploma shows a belief in the importance, too. I think talking about the good of college and demonstrating it, encouraging my children, etc. will show a belief in the important of education as well. That my husband has one will help the situation as well. My father's mother didn't have a degree, but GUESS WHAT...he went to college and has a great career.

You see, the problem here is you all seem to think there's only one right way. The ONLY way to be prepared for single parenthood is to have a degree and career. The ONLY way to support education is to go to college. The ONLY way to support women's work equality is to go to work. And I think that's just BS.

"If you want the BEST for your children, you'd get the degree,"

I think I will chose what is best for my children, thanks.

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 6:50pm

Being a well educated person isn't about your role as a wife, mother, or worker.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 6:51pm
Three thumbs way, way

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 7:44pm
Oh.

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:10pm

But, what I miss about WOH doesn't come close to what I would miss about SAH. We're all different. And, I can't bring back my children's childhood, but the workplace is always there.

And I here you on the "fights." My boys have always gotten along so well, but lately their making up for it ;).

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:24pm

Besides fights, temper tantrums and office politics? Deadlines, boring staff meetings, personnel reviews and rush hour traffic ;).

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:36pm

"I don't feel I'm missing anything."

How would you know? What jobs have you had?

"Stock options and a nice boss don't compare to the satisfaction I get from being with my son."

I don't recall an either/or statement. Many of us have *both*.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:39pm

"I'm going to encourage my daughters their whole lives to never go to college and have them graduate, work @ McDonald's, and live at home until they happen to meet Mr. Right."

What happened to "why go to college and get a degree I'm not going to use for a career I don't want?" Are you going to tell your kids to do as you say, but no as *you* did?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:42pm
ESPECIALLY for women. Men have more options for making a living wage without a college education. For women, the choices are fewer and the pay MUCH less.

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