SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

Statement in a post below.

I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 9:43am
Plenty of people go to college without a direction, but that doesn't argue againt the necessity of a college education.

Sabina

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 9:49am
<> Exactly.
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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 9:51am

You know I've been really considering going to school online. I could have my Associate's in Early Childhood Education possibly more, by the time I feel I'm going to go back to work(when the baby is preschool age, 3-4 years) I know I'll go back to working in childcare but it would give me slightly more earning power. I have no desire to finish my degree in Accounting but in some ways I should have at the time. I went a year out of a 2 year program and would have been in the last graduating class to be a CPA with only a 2 year degree after that you had to have a 4 year degree. But if I had done that I woudl not have been a nanny for the family I was and woudl not have moved 4 hours away with them and met DH whom I have 6 wonderful kids with. So I try not to look back too much!

What you say makes a lot of sense. These days with the availability of going to school online it's much easier for a SAHM to get a degree. My friend is doing it with 3 kids and she has an in home day care. If I had to acually leave the hosue to go to college right now it wouldn't be doable with 6 young kids but at home I could make it work.

Side note, here substitute teacher make about the same as fulltime and they(at least in the school district we live in) are almost guarenteed to work everyday that school is in.

Amy

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 10:02am

Hmmm, let's see. I've been WOH for 25 years. In my experience...

<> I certainly would miss that.

<> I don't remember having to do that very much, if at all, but then again my 48 year old brain could be forgetting something. {snort}

<> Never needed to pump, but my DH goes to the drycleaner and runs errands as much as I do. This isn't a huge deal.

<> Not too much for me. I live 7 miles from the office and when there's heavy traffic, it might take 20 minutes to get home instead of 10.

<> Yup, there's that. Not too often. Not as much drama as there is at home with the kids though.

<> Never had one.

<> I've been on 2 business trips in 25 years. My DH doesn't travel for business.

I'm not unusual. There are plenty of people out there like me. And if I hadn't WOH for 25+ years, I wouldn't have a home, a decent car, a good group of co-workers and friends who have enriched my life, a 401k, college savings for my sons, travel, the ability to visit my nephew graduating from AF basic training on 6 weeks notice, marketable skills, the ability to support my family if anything happened to my DH. I could go on and on, but I think you get the point.

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 10:17am

that's a fancy rationalization, but still not even logical. if this is the information you are getting from a nurst, lc, or doctor, i suggest you find another.

in the first place, if a baby is sated before the breast is emptied, the last thing you want to do is increase supply. the nutritional content/intensity of breast milk changes with the volume, so the optimal nutritional balance depends on the body creating approximately exactly as much milk as the infant will ingest at each point in time.

despite your claims of expertise, you are badly misinformed about even the most basic aspects of breastfeeding, much less pumping. if anyone should be boning up on their research, it's you.

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 10:35am

"I'll never understand the what if scare tactics....my sil won't have children because "something might happen to them"."

They are not "scare tactics", it's called "life".

She brought up the other woman scenario anyway.

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 10:41am

That's unusual--do they have the same benefits, retirement plan, and opportunity for advancement?

Like in the Dallas I.S.D., starting teachers only make around $40,000/year, but teachers who have put in 30 years make close to $70,000--although after 12 years and a masters degree I was only making around $46,000. Wierd pay scales, eh? . . . and head football coaches make an average of about $100,000. Teachers help generate much more scholarship money, but football is a lot more exciting apparently.

I think subs make somewhere around/above $100 a day in DISD, and they only have to have about 45 college credit hours.

Nice thing about subbing--no papers or lesson plans at the end of each day. We had a firefighter who subbed at our high school--he was as well-respected as many of the teachers and a great influence on the students. And I still remember a substitute teacher I had for American history my junior year one day--she obviously was a well-educated, professional woman who loved teenagers.

Smart women are needed just as much in education as in traditionally male-dominated professions, and in some ways teaching is a very family friendly career, especially if one's kids are in the same school system (similar vacation days, school hours, etc.).

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:06am

i think lack of direction does hurt......the child who majors in education *just because* becomes the teacher that doesn't give a damn. the child who majors in medicine just because becomes the doctor whose reputation is less than the doctor who knew medicine was his direction.......my sister is a better sped teacher than the sped professional who cares less about her special needs kids - that was her direction long before she entered college doors.

my point is that college is a tool,juts like elementary and secondary school was..........you can't just tell a child she needs a college education without helping her find her direction/interest/passions too. moho.




Edited 9/1/2006 11:21 am ET by egd3blessed

 

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:18am
Can you not conceive of any other job where the employee doesn't sit in a 4 walled office pushing pencils??
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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:18am

I agree on all counts.

Dj

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