SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

Statement in a post below.

I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:21am

But thats exactly what I was saying. I said an 18yo is not likely to be ready for the commitment and difficulty of marriage because the likelihood of them truly knowing themselves, etc. is so small. I also mentioned in another post that there is scientific data to back up the idea, and mentioned that our brains dont stop developing until we are in our 20's.

Dj

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:26am

Part of the reason I am adamant about my children going to college is I did not finish and my dh never went. I know without a doubt we'd have had an easier time of things if we'd chosen college.

In addition, a bachelors degree today is what a high school diploma was 20 years ago. A good percentage of the jobs out there now want to see a degree before you can even get your foot in the door-even a lot of blue collar jobs want to see some level of education.

Dj

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:27am
the first two years are almost all general ed credits anyway, so if they dont know exactly what they want to do, they have time to explore various avenues.

Dj

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:30am
I know couples who both work long hours, just not many. Most people I know don't want that setup and are able to afford having one parent cut back.
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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:38am
Or maybe there are just more women who want it.
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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:39am
I couldn't agree more, but preparation for college includes knowing how to use the college experience and getting the most out of it.

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:40am
Exactly.

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:40am

how can you influence something you don't own though,dj? really. my dad has a masters degree so i grew up in a home where education like that was not necessarily *expected*,but rather *valued*.....i think it's one thing to share your life experiences with your child and another thing all together to tell a child she needs to pursue something that you don't have.

don't you agree we,as parents are models for our chidlren?

 

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 12:27pm

Well I'm not sure what you mean by influencing something you dont own. We dont own our children by any means, yet influence them every day. And if my children choose not to go to college, thats certainly their choice, but I plan to make sure they are fully aware of the potential consequences and repurcussions of that choice.

Life today is far different than it was when you and I graduated high school. Its simply not comparable. I make sure my children understand that.

Dj

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 12:32pm

<> As long as you continue to have a DH that has a steady paycheck. Ever hear of divorce, long term disability, illness, or death? Never think any of those things can't happen to you and/or your DH.

<> Just because you have a DH with a steady paycheck doesn't mean you always will. What are your plans if anything should happen to your DH?

<> And if anything happens when there is no steady income or potential stock options... what will you do?

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