SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

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I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 12:45pm

My mom can't swim. She made sure that we all learned, and that we think it's important for our children to learn.

She also didn't go to college. Yet all three of her children have at least one advanced degree.

If our ability to encourage our children was limited to only the things we ourselves had accomplished, the world would stagnate pretty quickly.

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 1:21pm

The fact that children grow up fast is incentive to me to SAH. It seems unreal to me that my oldest is 10 and my baby is 14 months. I'll most likely be going back to work in 3-4 years. I worked in childcare which is not a lucrative career, especially if you want to keep working with the children not as administrator or owner.

Amy

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 1:38pm

Did you see the "winkie" icon on my post?

(Actually, did you mean to post to me as I've said very little on this subject?)

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 1:42pm
You miss alot of the day. That's just the way it is. That doesn't mean you miss it all or that you can't be a good parent, obviously. But, I've WOH and I've SAH. I didn't realize until I SAH how much I missed.
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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 1:49pm

I don't disagree but college isn't that education for everyone. Military got my DH to start out $2 an hour more at his current job and what he did in the military has nothing to do with his job. He still started out at a crappy wage(we didn't have kids) but now makes 3 1/2 times that and has been for several years, he's been with the company 12 years.

We will be seriously encouraging our kids to get college education or training but I won't feel like a failure as a parent if they don't. The private school my kids go to has 95% of graduating seniors going to college.

Amy

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 1:55pm

i don't believe learning to swim is paralel to influencing a college education (maybe it is. *shrug*) - a child enrolled in swim lessons is not dependent on whether his/her parent can swim......whereas a person who enters and completes his/her college education has been influenced by someone or something to do that. i don't believe influence comes from a parent who didn't finish.

my dh is the only one in his family to enroll and complete a college education...he was not influenced to college educate himself from someone who didn't go there.

 

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 1:56pm

Here is Ohio there aren't teachers making 70K a year anywhere that I know of. Teachers here are seriously underpaid. I don't know about benifits but I do know that they have to pay into retirement, just learned that from a sub last week. Oh course every other week there has been an article in the paper about scandal with the teacher's retirment system's board members.

Amy

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 2:47pm

I very firmly feel that everyone who can go to college should go to college, whether or not they also join the military or do any other worthwhile thing.

Sabina

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 3:06pm

?? my influences come from my belief system and real life world...what example are you teaching your kids about college since you didn't finish yourself. curious. are you going to just share job stats? salary figures? what if your child wants to grow up to be just like you or your dh? does your career or your dh's job now require college educations?

i want my child to grow up to be anyone she/he choses to be too. i think the examples dh and i set have alot (not everything....but alot) to do wiht that though.




Edited 9/1/2006 3:43 pm ET by egd3blessed

 

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 4:54pm
The first two years are general ed?

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