SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

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I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 4:57pm

I do miss things, but not "my childrens' childhoods."

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 7:46pm

Maybe you should read an ENTIRE post before you respond to it. If you had made it past the first sentence, you would have seen this:

She also didn't go to college. Yet all three of her children have at least one advanced degree.

And your dh's experience aside, she most certainly DID influence us to go to college. So much so that we all got post-graduate degrees.

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 8:48pm
My mom graduated from a top pharmacy school (first in her class, no less). My dad never went to college. Both of them expected us to go to college, but I would say that my dad's influence was equally, if not more, strong in that regard. He felt he had missed something important, and he was adamant that his own children would not miss that. Not "owning" a college degree doesn't limit your influence over your own kids going to college.
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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 9:03pm

the million dollar question is whether or not you would have pursued college if *both* of your parents weren't college educated...my dad earned a masters. mom dropped out of college to marry and become a mother. so in my world,it was dad's influence and example that motivated all 5 siblings and me to pursue college,not so much mom even though they were both on the same page when it came to value of education and all.

there is nobody in dh's family with a college education....his inspirations and interest to pursue college came from something else,not his family.

 

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 10:15pm

I think I would have gone to college even if my mom hadn't, because my dad was adamant about it.

Neither of my parents had a masters degree (in fact, nobody in my immediate or extended family did), but both my parents influenced my choice to go to law school.

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Sat, 09-02-2006 - 8:48am
I sah and I feel like I have missed nothing, including any of the firsts, and some days that's definitely not a good thing, lol. But I would never say that on this board. ;)
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Sat, 09-02-2006 - 9:48am
SAme with us. My DD1 was the first one in both sides of the family to earn a bachelor degree (we have a few family members who have associates). We are the oppisite of you, I have never attended college, DH has periodically but has no degree.
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Sat, 09-02-2006 - 9:55am
Ture, nothing wrong with going in undeclared. In fact unless someone is very sure of what they want to do it is a good option. Much better than changing majors. My DD1 went in undeclared and discovered that she liked the math type classes more than the languange type classes and ended up a finance/economic major. (Something she never would have dreamed of happening when she was in 8th grade stuggling at the kitchen table every night to learn algebra)
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Sat, 09-02-2006 - 10:02am
Can you clarify? If one your DDs were unsure of her direction or even college, would you be okay/encourage her to take time off before college? The one thing that's clear on this board is, put off college and one just might never go.
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Sat, 09-02-2006 - 10:07am
How did she influence you all to go to college?

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