SAH doesn't support change,
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SAH doesn't support change,
| Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm |
"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"
Statement in a post below.
I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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It worked for us. I have not stepped one foot in a college classroom. My DH has attended periodically thoughout the years but has no degree.
Our DD1 graduated last year with a degree in finance/economics. DD1 will be graduating next spring with a degree in elementary education. DD3 will be starting her college journey next fall.
Yes, we are models for our children but that is not the only way we teach them. They don't just learn what is the right way from our lives, they sometimes learn from our lives that there are better way to do things. In a perfect world my kids would follow my steps in the things I did right and not follow them in the things I did not so right. (So far they have).
It was for my DD1 who came in undeclared. She took basic classes until she declared a major in her sophomore year then she geared towards that major.
My DD2 came in with a declared major so from the beginning she had set sechedule of what classes to take each year for that major from the beginning.
i'm not saying it's impossible for a child without college educated parents to not go and complete college. i believe it is possible,very possible!!
i just don't think the parent w/o a college education is the influence in that child's pursuit of college education. sure they can encourage and support their child's interests,goals and dreams but influence and set the example? hmmm,i don't know. i can't imagine influencing something i didn't live through or warning my child of a life i'm living. actions do speak louder than words imo.
I was undeclared until the second half of my junior year, although I was pretty sure what I would end up majoring in from the beginning. Then, I changed my degree plan my senior year. I ended up taking 21 hours my last semester (or was it 24) to work in some classes at the last minute.
BUT it gave me the chance to explore some areas I hadn't thought about earlier. I know so many people who changed their majors 2 or 3 times. The thing is, most people aren't really aware of what's out there until they're - well - out there.
"Influence" and "setting an example" are not the same things. It's possible to do one without the other.
Are you trying to tell me that my mother did NOT influence me to go to college? Do you think I'm lying about that?
"set the example"
No
"influence"
Yes, you do not have to personally experience something to influence someone towards that.
We influenced it from in early childhood talking about "when you go to college" not "if you go to collge". We influenced it by making funding available. We influenced it by not only funding SAT/ACT testing but by making sure that they were scheduled for and they got to the testing sites. We influenced it by going to college night at the local high school as a family. We influenced it by telling them that as long as they were in school they could live hear rent free but if not in school they had to pay rent. We influenced it by contining to pay some of their bills as adults while they were in school. We unfluenced it by buying them cars that they needed as tranportation for college.
"actions do speak louder than words"
I agree. By the time my kids go to collge they have had 18+ years to see the results of the action of DH and I not having a degree and to realize that having a degree may be a better option. They wanted better financial options than I have.
Some kids finish high school with absolutely no idea of who they are or might want to become.
Sabina
Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
Perhaps many parents without degrees, though, don't realize or understand what they have missed, and thus can't help their children see the importance of education beyond high school. The attitude they convey is, "We're doing fine without degrees" or "I couldn't advance further with a degree anyway." Or else they don't know what to do to help their kids, all the things that you listed under how you influenced yours.
The father of one of my former students took the student on roofing jobs each summer, hoping that the miserable working conditions would be enough to convince his son that he needed an education past high school.
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