SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

Statement in a post below.

I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 2:51pm
And yet, I'm a bad role model and have all but been called an idiot because I don't know what I'd like to pursue in college yet and because I wouldn't push my children to attend before they were ready. LOL.
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Registered: 10-31-2005
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 2:53pm

What do you base this information on? I had many students who were prime material for this money--Hispanic, very low income, first generation college students, excellent grades, good test scores--and some filled out over 100 scholarship applications and still ended up with huge loans.

If anything, it seems the competition for scholarships and financial aid is much tougher now than when I finished high school over 15 years ago.

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 2:54pm
We have life insurance, disability insurance, & health insurance, enough that those things don't worry us financially right now. In the unlikely event that my husband leaves, I'd be perfectly capable of supporting myself and my son regardless of wha tyou all may think. I've already described that I would move back home, find a job that would pay our expenses while I got a degree, and then start a new career.
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Sun, 09-03-2006 - 2:56pm
Well, my husband will be finishing his bachelors in about a year and a half and started on it about a yaer and a half ago. That's 3 years. However, beauty school, massage therapy, nursing, many professions do not require a long amount of time in college. You seem to think you need to go to college for 4 years to get a bachelors (or any degree that you can base a career on), and that's quite incorrect. If it were true then my husband wouldn't be finishing his next year, and my stepmother would have been in nursing school for more than 2 years.
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Sun, 09-03-2006 - 3:03pm

No one "all but" called you an idiot. I think you're immature and have a lot of growing up to do, but we all are at your age--and at any age we all have areas of immaturity and inexperience and need to continue to grow. What marks your immaturity is that you don't recognize the growing up you still need to do.

Mature adults acknowledge that they don't know everything and attempt to learn from others.

So perhaps those of us who are older and more experienced are wasting our time when we say that 18 year olds who don't go to college because they aren't "ready" usually don't go, or don't finish. And IME they either regret it or spend the rest of their lives trying to convince everyone else that they are just as well off as had they gone to college.

As far as you not knowing what you'd like to pursue in college--well, you've mentioned writing. Why don't you look for a writing program where you can learn from published authors? Any college program is going to improve your writing skills, though, but you won't even know what you can learn from a program until you actually start taking classes.

Then again, ignorance is bliss. Take your pick.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 3:42pm
I guess we just had a different kind of relationship with our parents.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 3:50pm

I think you're using a very narrow definition of "influence." To "influence" means to produce an effect on the actions or behavior or another. It's possible to influence someone by leading by example, but there are many other ways.

I don't see any sort of control game in encouraging someone to attend college when you haven't done so yourself. Would it be a control game for you to encourage your kids to have careers when you don't work?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 4:00pm
I guess she went to a large, state school?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 4:02pm
At the small, private college I attended, there were no "general ed" requirements.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 4:08pm
Thanks, never thought of that explanation.

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