SAH doesn't support change,
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SAH doesn't support change,
| Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm |
"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"
Statement in a post below.
I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Perhaps you can tell me from your experience living/working in a highly educated area in a highly educated field, if students from public universities compete with--or break into the ranks of--those from private universities?
I ask because when I was teaching, I never quite knew whether to encourage my students to attend private schools if it meant they would incur huge debts--or if they would be more capable of paying off those debts with a private education and so make up the difference in the long run.
Sorry if too far off-topic, but I guess it relates to the SAH/WOH debate as income can make a difference in a child's access to education.
"These days it doesn't take long to earn a degree, and there is LOTS of money available to those who seek it."
Two very nieve and uninformed statements. Most bachelor's degrees are actually taking MORE than 4 years to finish - the average is up o 4 1/2 and many degrees take 5 years, full-time. The vast majority of moneys out there to help pay for college are LOANS, not grants or scholarships. Grants and scholarship money are great as supplements, but they are not a plan for paying for college.
"I know plenty of people--even family members--that do just fine working as waitresses and who love it."
Single parents? Who have strong feelings against using daycare?
"In the UNLIKELY situation that my husband ran off, I'd have to do something like that for say, two years (which is how long it takes to get a nursing degree, should I pursue that path)"
In between working enough hours to make ends meet, you still plan to go to school full-time and finish a nursging program in 2 years? Man - I have a bridge I'd *love* to sell you.
"You don't have the same history as me, and you do NOT know what cost of living is where I'm from nor do you have any clue as to how far I can make a small amout of money last. You don't know me, so stop judging me. I don't care what you think because I KNOW otherwise. :)"
Simmer down - this entire topic has arisen because of YOUR statements and information you have offered. As you have been reminded repeatedly, if you don't want to talk about it (particularly as you seem to feel that such discussions are direct "judgements" of you) then don't bring it up.
"My grandfather is quite ill and will probably have to shut that restaurant down."
Sorry to hear about your grandfather's health, but *that's* your back-up plan?
"I think helping my grandfather run a family business that he's operated for 60 years and serving the patrons who have watched me grow since I was a child and who are like extended family is a fine and perfectly 'worthy' alternative to nursing school."
Sure, running a small business is more likely to generate a living wage than is waitressing or delivering take-out. But it also takes working very long hours (as I am sure you are aware from your grandfather). And some education on finances or running a business couldn't hurt, either.
"What shall I do...help my father with his restaurant and inherit it when he passes, keep the legacy alive...or cut people's hair?"
I would do whichever made the most sense for my family.
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Or both!
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it goes back to the point i stand behind - you don't influence soemthing you don't live....i didn't say a child from parents who didn't attend college can't attend or finish college. they can. i just don't think the influence comes from them...........just like my interest in vacation didn't come from home,it came from somewhere else.
Edited 9/3/2006 8:27 pm ET by egd3blessed
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