SAH doesn't support change,
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SAH doesn't support change,
| Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm |
"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"
Statement in a post below.
I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Jennie
Well, believe it, because he started a while after joining the military and will be finished just before getting out. I'm sure the program, being mostly classes the military had hiim take (such as the one he just completed) will be recognized--as well as his training and 4 years of on-the-job experience, plus his service record which isn't too shabby.
And you don't need a bachelor's degree for all career fields. A bachelor's degree does help you be competitive and have better wages and benefits, get better positions, etc.; however, you can start out with an associates, get paid decently, continue schooling for your bachelor, and do just fine.
Regardless of what most bachelor degrees are taking to finish, there are ways of completing them early. Yes, most money out there is in the form of loans, but everyone in my family who has gone to college went for free on grants and scholarships. With my GPA and test scores, I'm not too worried about getting money--especially with the pending bill that may make the militar montgomery GI available to spouses and children.
No, the waitresses I know are not all single parents. Some are. I might not be happy with having to use daycare a lot, but I'd be JUST as miserable having to put my child in daycare if I were a lawyer as if I were a waittress.
You don't have to go to school full-time to get a degree in a few years, and I wouldn't necessarily be going to nursing school. There are many programs that I could complete in a few years. Even if it took 4-5, that still doesn't put me with such limited earning potential for the rest of my life.
Regardless, I don't have to explain myself or my plans to you. I know what I could make work, because I know what I've made work in the past.
I'm not bringing anything up anymore; I'm answering nosy questions. Keep asking. Keep smugly thinking that I'm a naive (proper spelling) and immature little child whose husband is going to run away and leave her penniless and who will run to mom and dad for help. That's fine with me. I know better, and I don't care if you do, too. ;)
There are plenty of degrees out there, plenty of programs, plenty of ways to get them, lots of flexibility, etc. Just because you did it a certain way or didn't have access to a certain window of oppertunity, just because most people take a long amount of time, doesn't mean that's true of everyone. If my stepmother, stepfather, and husband could get degrees and turn them into decent careers quickly, so can I. If they got grants, so can I. Especially considering I have better transcripts and test scores than them :P
'Sorry to hear about your grandfather's health, but *that's* your back-up plan?'
No, it's not, but it is a possibility, an oppertunity that would be open to me--one of several. It is actually something that I've thought of doing since I was a child helping myself to a free peice of pie at a bar stool ;)
'Sure, running a small business is more likely to generate a living wage than is waitressing or delivering take-out. But it also takes working very long hours (as I am sure you are aware from your grandfather). And some education on finances or running a business couldn't hurt, either.'
I can learn plenty from my grandfather and others who have helped along the way, and I could go get a business degree. I don't have to have one right now to get one some day. Moreover, my grandfather works about 40 hours a week right now, sometimes less because he's sick...and his business is doing fine. I thought 40 hours was a normal full-time work week? Regardless, I'd have to work just the same if not more hours as a nurse or lawyer or something of the sort.
"I would do whichever made the most sense for my family."
So would I, but I'm not in that situation yet so I don't have an official "This is what I'm going to do if things don't work out" plan considering there is a lot that could change between now and then. I have a lot of possibilities, and I think many people do if they'd just look for them. That's another reason not to get a degree. I could get a nursing degree now, then later on decide I'd rather take over the family business--then have to go back again for a business degree.
Whatever you guys think about my situation, it is still my situation. I'm doing what I feel is best for me and my family, as everyone else in the world (well, mostly everyone else) is doing. I appreciate the concern and advice, but I can handle what life has thrown at me. I've been thrown a lot of curves in life and dealt with them just fine.
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So you must think that 74% of the U.S. adult female population and 71% of the males are immature. They don't and will never have their college degrees.
<> I'm sorry to hear that those you know without the degree are living hollow lives of regret and desperation.
I'm more inclined to think that 74% of the women and 71% of the men have somewhere along the line (perhaps by age 60 or 70 or so) resigned themselves to the fact that they will not be getting that degree and live with it. In my world, Punka probably represents the much healthier accepting attitude of those many, many people in the US who are degree-less.
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