SAH doesn't support change,

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SAH doesn't support change,
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:58pm

"SAH doesn't support change, it supports going backwards to the 1950's,"

Statement in a post below.

I wholeheartedly disagree. To me, SAH is a choice. How is that going back to the 1950s, when a lot of women didn't have much of a choice.

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Mon, 09-04-2006 - 5:05pm
That could be the issue here. According to my mother, I've been a cynic since the day I was born. I'm also very unsentimental, so maybe things that mean a lot to other people, I really don't care about. Boy, I'm painting a rosy picture of myself... LOL.
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Mon, 09-04-2006 - 5:06pm

A college degree is a huge achievement, one that any college grad can be proud of.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Mon, 09-04-2006 - 5:08pm
There's no contradiction or conflict between getting a college education versus having a baby and "enjoying your children's younger years".

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Mon, 09-04-2006 - 5:09pm
Yes, but my reply was to someone who was saying that having children was one reason going to school later in life was a bad idea. And those who go around talking about how immature a 21 year old is shouldn't have to ask the second question. I would characterize myself as pretty dumb in the scheme of things at 20, and I think most other would. Either that, or all these posters have been lying.
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Mon, 09-04-2006 - 5:10pm
So if college isn't the best way to get an education, what's a better way?

Sabina

Sabina

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Mon, 09-04-2006 - 5:11pm

There are no certifications? No tests that mechanics pass to demonstrate mastery?

Learing in an apprecentiship is still a form of post-secondary training. Especially if it culminates in a certificate, etc. Again, a different discussion that where this one started with "All I need is a high school diploma and hard work" to support my child.

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Mon, 09-04-2006 - 5:14pm

I think there's a large difference between being proud of a college degree and thinking it makes you better than other people. I'm pretty sure I was making that quite clear.

As to the rest, I don't agree. I think that most successful people are successful because of who they are, college degree or not. I've known plenty of people who have a college degree and it did them no good. I think success comes from something else.

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Mon, 09-04-2006 - 5:18pm

Oh - I get a different picture with "dumb" than I do with "immature" and "naive". Someone who is a dumb 20 year old will probably be a dumb 30 year old, a dumb 40 year old. Someone who is simply uneducated and inexperienced will change drastically with life.

"Yes, but my reply was to someone who was saying that having children was one reason going to school later in life was a bad idea."

But, still, how does that gaining life experience with marriage, motherhood, and time make one a better student - given the time constraints and added responsibility of parenthood?

My DH is in school right now and there is no question in his or my mind that finishing his degree is going to be difficult. Much more difficult today than if he had gone straight to college after highschool. I will say that his grades are much better now than before, but life and a job and kids, makes the logistics and time requirements much harder.

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Mon, 09-04-2006 - 5:20pm
Life experience, work experience, travelling, apprenticeships, for starters.
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Mon, 09-04-2006 - 5:21pm

A college degree isn't any sort of a guarantee, but without it you've missed an opportunity, IMO.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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