SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 06-30-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 1:06am
Because, as she stated earlier in the thread, SAHMs are the cause of all her problems in the working world. Never mind that when I was a SAHM, it had no effect on her what-so-ever, I am still to blame that she had to work in a job that made her unhappy. Gee, maybe now that I am a WOHM, I can qualify for the medal she is trying to win herself.
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 1:09am
She is always good for a good hearty laugh, right? LOL
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 1:17am
I am a WOHM and I can see the contributions that SAHMs make and do not degrade them they way you do just because I can't put a dollar sign on what they do. I think it is really sad that you can't see past your life to know that some people in the world are doing what they can to make it a better place without even being paid for it. GASP! who would have thought that people can be happy without a paycheck - and be just a valuable as a person who does make a paycheck! You make no more of a contribution to sociey than I do as another WOHM, and I don't make any more of a contribution than my SAH friends. Get over yourself - you are not that important in the scheme of things.
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 1:20am
and nothing you have given as examples make society any better either. You say taxes - you and your family pay taxes, SAHMs and their family pay taxes. Come up with something that doesn't have a dollar sign attached to it. That is what really matters in the long run.
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 4:48am
Back atcha, GK. Why can't I show my SON options other than simply WOH? Why can't I show him that success isn't a management level job or high SES or any of the other indicators you put so much stock into. Why can't I show him that running one's own business is a viable option? Why can't I be a role model and plant the seed of entrepreneurship? Why is a job at a corporation the ONLY route to go? Why can't I show him WRITING is just a good a job as any? Or how about art? Or music? Or writing poetry? Why must it be something technical? Why should my son grow up thinking he must get married and then work like a dog at something he really doesn't like so he can kow tow to society's defintion of success?

Why is your life and how you're living it to be lauded but everyone else's life is something for you to wipe your feet on?

outside_the_box_mom

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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 4:55am
Sound of head banging on table.

"I'm all for being equal partners with our dh's. Never said I wasn't. I'm also for showing our dd's they can be self reliant."

You are not equal to your DH if you can't ask him to go get milk. You posted that in your rant about your DH. I remember clear as a day. If my DH had told me he wasn't going to get milk when I asked, he wouldn't have a home to come back to the next time he went on a business trip.

"And what does my pending divorce have to do with this debate? Don't you worry your pretty little head, dh will get what's coming to him. Guess I should really make a spectacle of him just to make an impact on my dd's, huh?"

I am NOT worried about your divorce. I have far too many other things on my mind, like my article due next week for a magazine. I don't care what you do to your DH. But let me just say, you aren't showing your daughters anything good. If you were a true role model, you would get in there and fight for your marriage and make your DH go to counseling and get his problems and your problems on the table. Because, sweetheart, you have a fair number of them.

As to what your divorce has to do with this debate, you tell me. You're the one that spent days telling all of us how bad your marriage is. This is a debate board, not a let's hash out my husband's faults board.

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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 6:03am
Yeah. I don't think as a wohpt I impact sah. How would I? When I go to sah I don't expect to impact wohs. How would I?
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 6:04am
Yep. We provide everything on my hubby's salary so it doesn't matter if I woh full or part time or if I sah. Life doesn't change & we don't give up anything but my blowing money if I quit.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 6:33am

I wouldn't want work or the paycheck to be the defining factor of my girls.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 7:19am
No, silly. Most WOHMs do not put SAHMs on a pedastal but neither do they run them down (that would be the former). You run them down (that would be the latter). You misread the post.

Edited to add: woops this was supposed to be under grimalskinskeeper's post, where it means exactly the opposite of putting it under cocoapop's post


Edited 8/12/2004 10:54 am ET ET by susannahk2000

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