Nope. What I've been asking all along is what is this supposed SAH contribution. All moms make contributions regardless of working status. THose would be mom contributions. I'm asking what this SAHM contribution is.
The problem is, they're only in danger of losing women who just had babies. As long as that is the case, all women will pay for the stereotype. It takes staying to convince them women will stay and in staying changes can be made.
What's wrong with what? Your marriage? Umm, all I have to go on is what you've posted here and if I have to spell out why the type of marriage you have isn't the greatest one to present to children as an example for them to learn by, then we have a huge disconnect here.
I don't presume that your dh writes poetry. He didn't write that Dr. Laura book, did he? I meant he will find another book to give you that will help redeem himself. If a book can cause all this damage, then surely another book can repair it.
How can it be that getting divorced won't lower your SES? I'm curious. Especially since at the same time you will be going into a lower paying career?
No, what I'm modeling for my dd's WRT marriage? Dh and I managed 25 years without too much trouble before he decided he married the wrong woman.
The divorce will be hard on the girls but I'd be a piss poor role model to stay in a marriage where I'm required to become a subservient little wimpette just to please my man. Sorry, but I didn't foresee, 25 years ago, that dh would decide I wasn't what he wanted after all. I have to make do with what I have to work with. Unfortunately, that isn't going to be easy on the kids.
Edited 8/12/2004 10:35 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
You know what? I'm not going to list all the things you've written here before about what is rotten about your marriage, some of which has to have been impossible to hide from your daughters. I know I read them. But I just don't have the heart to sit here and toss your words back in your face.
Suffice it to say, in my meager opinion, you have done no favors to your daughters in your role modeling, regardless of your work ethic or career choices.
P.S. If it is so apparent that your dh wants someone else, someone you aren't, why do you insist on waiting for him to make the first move? What exactly are you modeling there?
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I don't presume that your dh writes poetry. He didn't write that Dr. Laura book, did he? I meant he will find another book to give you that will help redeem himself. If a book can cause all this damage, then surely another book can repair it.
How can it be that getting divorced won't lower your SES? I'm curious. Especially since at the same time you will be going into a lower paying career?
The divorce will be hard on the girls but I'd be a piss poor role model to stay in a marriage where I'm required to become a subservient little wimpette just to please my man. Sorry, but I didn't foresee, 25 years ago, that dh would decide I wasn't what he wanted after all. I have to make do with what I have to work with. Unfortunately, that isn't going to be easy on the kids.
Edited 8/12/2004 10:35 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
Paige
I still cleaned, did laundry, & grocery shopped after 3:30 in the afternoon like I do now as a WOHM.
Paige
Suffice it to say, in my meager opinion, you have done no favors to your daughters in your role modeling, regardless of your work ethic or career choices.
P.S. If it is so apparent that your dh wants someone else, someone you aren't, why do you insist on waiting for him to make the first move? What exactly are you modeling there?
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