SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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Registered: 12-12-2002
SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 8:52pm
Said by someone who feels it necessary to blow her own horn harder and uglier than anyone else I've ever met.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 9:00pm
I certainly feel for your daughters, all right, largely because I do think the take-home lesson for them WRT the importance of taking care of your marriage v. work will be something quite different from the version you think you're delivering.
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 9:34pm

Since when? Lots of women choose to leave the workforce or go part time when their children reach the teen years.


Even if you were right (a longshot at best), why would that make a difference? The end result is still a more flexible workplace for everyone.


Like I said, I just have a different idea of "better" than you do.

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 9:38pm
Yes, my idea of "better" & "best" are not anywhere near Grimal's idea!

Paige

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 9:44pm
I'm thankful my mother was open minded enough to show me I could be a woman & make my own choices. She did not one time (she has always wohft) give me the impression & raise me in the way Grimal says she is doing her dd's. I've always been so grateful to her but now that I hear Grimal & O123's take on life and I want to bow down to my mother & give her even more attitude for thinking differently than these ladies.

I'm doing my dd a favor & raising her the same way.

I graduated from high school a year early and I went to college, worked, & lived in my own apartment all by myself.

Then I got married & sah at the beginning, I went back to work for awhile, back to sah, and now back to woh again.

I have no doubt that I'll either go to teaching just mornings or quit altogether.

But the important thing my mother taught me is that I can be me & I can raise my family, including dd's without having to worry about what stauts I am at the moment.

Paige

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 10:09pm
I appreciate the vote of confidence. I don't know that intellectually obsessing over something actually translates to successfully executing it but I do realize that as long as I am concerned about it, half the battle is won.

I'm sorry but I can't help feel suspicious when you say nice things to me!!

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 10:22pm
What does work have to do with taking care of a marriage? Where do you get the impression this is my "marriage v. work"??? My working status has nothing to do with this.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 10:22pm
I guarantee that the products produced by WM's touch your life.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 10:24pm
Nope. I simply argue against those who want to blow the SAH horn. Here, I was told that SAH make some contribution. I asked what. I offered examples of how WM's contrbute as examples. So far, no one has come up with anything because it's not there. SAH isn't a contribution.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 10:24pm
Um, no, they're far more likely to quit when they have babies than teens. Yes, some do but that isn't the norm.

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