SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 11:14pm

If we call them mom contributions or not, they're still CONTRIBUTIONS, period, end of story.

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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 11:19pm
The contributions you've described of the WOHMs are the same sorts of contributions a great many SAHMs make, too.
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 11:31pm
That's a stupid argument.
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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 12:03am
<< Because they are active & they will only be home for 4 more years before going off to college. She said these would be the final 4 years of them living together as a family & she didn't want to miss out on one second. >>

i can't figure out what i'm missing by being home about 30 minutes after my son gets home -- taking him to baskeball practice and games and religious school (not this year though).

eileen

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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 12:03am
that is not the impression I am getting from her. She blames SAHMs for the fact that women are not far enough in the work place, she has said that SAHMs all need to look up to WOHMs because they are such a great role model for their daughters.....could go on but it is getting way to late for that.
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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 12:18am
i was only referring to that specific comment....i don't think that there are ANY contributions that are different between those of sahms and wohms...because we all contribute as MOMS. At least i'm pretty sure that's what she was saying in that specific post.

i refuse though, to get drawn into the entirety of her postings here....i usually stay out of it all.

eileen

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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 12:19am
would you dh say the same thing? I highly doubt it - he more than likely views it as a marriage v work thing.
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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 12:24am
I have one....my aunt was/is a SAHM all her life...and she was a foster parent. As a SAHM, she could take the neediest children as foster kids because the state KNEW that she would be there 24/7 to fill all their needs. There would be several times that we were visiting at their house - go to bed at night, wake up in the morning, and there would be another child there. She took in more kids than I can count because she dedicated her life to being a SAHM - even to kids that were not her own.
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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 2:30am
Sure seems like a lot of those 25 years were unhappy. And you seemed to constantly be pulling teeth to get your dh to step up to the plate in regards to parenting or anything else. I am sorry Cyndi, but your marriage doesnt sound like anything a parent would wish for their children-I certainly hope you want better than that for your girls.

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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 5:06am
They never get over the shock of a parent leaving. I'm surprised at you. I can't believe you think you are modeling something positive by allowing your marriage to fail. This person is their FATHER. No matter how crummy a husband he is to you, they don't and won't care about that. YOu know, the more I read your posts, the more I feel really sorry for your daughters. They are in for some real heartache and problems when they get older. I picture your home as being filled with strife and stress and unhappiness. Not a place I would want to grow up. It just goes to show high SES isn't everything.

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