But with any sah/woh issue, all parents have different feelings.
I don't know how long I will work. If I keep working I may quit when she gets to jr high. I don't know if I'd ever go back or not.
I really haven't looked any farther down the road on teaching vs sah than this upcoming year. I'm teaching Kindergarten again. I love our school & the fellow teachers I work with in the K-2nd.
It is just another bonus of finally getting to move back home.
#1. Perhaps you haven't noticed that OTBM doesn't exactly "SAH" herself. #2. Having dad SAH so as to model that a dad, as opposed to a mom, can SAH is only necessary if kids are so dim that they are utterly incapable of seeing past people's genitalia. Indeed, the effect you attribute to genitalia is quite remarkable. An employer sees a woman quit, therefore said employer will quite reasonably IYE think all women quit. A child sees a woman SAH, that child will quite reasonably IYE think all women can do is SAH. I wonder how you got so obsessed. The rest of us, including our young children are quite capable of screening out totally irrelevant characteristics.
Nope. Stereotypical/not stereotypical is totally irrelevant to whether what you're modeling for your children is good. It wouldn't be stereotypical for me to model being a serial killer, but it wouldn't be good, either, now would it.
Hey, you almost got it right. This does have nothing to do with work status per se. Only your insistence that everything you do and think (including that needing anything, including financial or emotional support, from one's own spouse, is loathesome) is right, good and appropriate and that everything that everyone else (including your husband) does and thinks is oppressive and wrong.
Beginning Sept. 1 will be working at DS' school two days a week. When I told him this, he said, "Wow! I'll get to see you at school? Can I visit you in your office? Wow!" Children are so easily impressed. Do you think we are doing him irreparable harm by having me WOH PT and having DH WAH FT? He might not know which genitalia to consider. ROFL
So "may as well be" and "are" mean the same thing?
I just love the way you define words in ways no one else does. No wonder so few of your posts make sense. Of course, it leaves the door open for you to claim "that's not what I meant" every time you get caught saying something absurd.
I certainly hope you're going to be making a lot more as a first-year teacher than you are now, so that the increased taxes you pay will make it up to society for the loss society will face with you quitting your nonstereotypical job for a stereotypical one.
Thanks. That's sounds like a good reference. I've done my research. I have books on it--Silver Spoon Kids: How Successful Parents Raise Responsible Children and Money Doesn't Grow On Trees and that kind of stuff. (There's no parenting issue I haven't found a book about! It has gotten to the point where now I can barely figure out what my true instincts should be because I've read too much.)
I've been thinking about this since before I had children!
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But with any sah/woh issue, all parents have different feelings.
I don't know how long I will work. If I keep working I may quit when she gets to jr high. I don't know if I'd ever go back or not.
I really haven't looked any farther down the road on teaching vs sah than this upcoming year. I'm teaching Kindergarten again. I love our school & the fellow teachers I work with in the K-2nd.
It is just another bonus of finally getting to move back home.
Paige
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So "may as well be" and "are" mean the same thing?
I just love the way you define words in ways no one else does. No wonder so few of your posts make sense. Of course, it leaves the door open for you to claim "that's not what I meant" every time you get caught saying something absurd.
Check out p. 94 in the September issue of Money magazine - 7 steps to raising non-financially spoiled children.
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I've been thinking about this since before I had children!
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