SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 7:46pm
You have made comments over time that has led me to believe that your marriage was not a happy one, nor one much filled with love. Dont be so defensive, or else dont bring your personal life issues onto a DEBATE board.

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 7:48pm
What I'm saying is that while we all make contributions as moms, those of use who work also make contributions as workers. We have additional contributions born out of our choice to WOH.
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 7:56pm

<< I would be a piss poor example for my dd's if I stayed after the book incident so I won't. >>


The point was that according to what you've posted here about your marriage, the 25 years prior to the book incident weren't such a hot example, either.


But hey - you're a woman of action, right? You took 11 years to leave a dead-end job you were railroaded into and 25 years to leave a bad marriage. You go, girl!

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 7:59pm

But something being the normal thing doesn't make it the only thing.


Except in your mind, of course. I notice you've tried this same argument elsewhere in the thread, when you were proven wrong.

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 8:42pm
I WOHPT. I touch the lives of the two people I work for & their immediate family but I don't touch others out in the world. I did when I was a medical secretary doing coding, insurance filing, and typing dictated reports. Now I work for a couple as their personal secretary. I hardly think that other than the taxes taken out of my check that my taking care of their business, making phone calls, running to the drycleaners, bank, & other errands, paying their bills, organizing their social calendar, ordering their dinners, organizing the events they host, hiring the caterers, & a dozen other things is really doing much in the way of touching the SAHMS in the world.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 8:58pm
Well, I started a whole thread just for you, and not only has no one had SAH be the only reason they ever quit, but not one appears to have been more likely to quit to SAH than for other reasons.

Something being "normal" is a totally different story. Of course it's normal to SAH after having children. Problem with your theory is that it's also perfectly normal to WOH after having children, and it's also perfectly normal to quit work because you got a better job, you don't like the current job, you want to work less hours, you want to work more hours, you feel like moving to Hawaii, etc. etc. etc.

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 10:07pm
As a SAHM, I bet I pay more in taxes than you make.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 10:44pm
If so, I'd like to know how you earn that much while SAH.
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 11:52pm
Investments? Owning a business & having others completely run it & you reap the rewards, but yet you have to pay taxes still. My inlaws own various businesses & have people to run them in full. They do not go in to the businesses or work the businesses themself. They have CEOs who report to them. They get a nice fat check, each of them, every Friday just like they both woh. My mil is here mornings taking care of the baby while I work, she spends her afternoons at the gym, spa, or shopping. My fil stops by here every day, plays golf every day unless it is pouring the rain, goes to the gym, plays tennis or racquetball. Seven days a week. They have been living this way I'd say a good 14 or 15 years now.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 11:55pm
Ohhh, Very scientific, lol. I never said it's the only reason people quit jobs, however, it is a very predictable pattern.

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