SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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Registered: 12-12-2002
SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 5:54am
Uh, you said the "only time" women were at "real risk" of quitting was when they had babies. Which is, of course, a bunch of hooey. You figure women quit when they have a baby. That means they are thus already out of the workforce for subsequent babies so cannot quit any more. So unless it's abnormal ever to have quit a job before you have a baby, which, well, sorry, it isn't, or unless it's abnormal not to quit when you have a baby, which, well, sorry, it isn't, your theory is preposterous, which, well, sorry, it is.
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Registered: 07-20-2004
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 6:01am
How telling you'd choose hyperbolic suicide over simply admitting that you've stayed in situations that were less than ideal for much longer than was wise, and the best choice you could possibly make is NOT making you a role model for all women everywhere, but simply a matter of cutting your losses.

Karen

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sharp in some places,
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Registered: 08-29-2002
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 7:36am
And yet, you have not posted a single statistical study demonstrating that quitting after having children is the norm (or even a predicatable pattern) for women with professional careers either....your opinion is no more scientifically based than the informal poll cocoapop ran, it is simply your opinion.

Laura

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Sat, 08-14-2004 - 7:44am
Hey! I'm reading John Bogle's book, "Common sense on mutual funds." I took your advice and am reading everything. Right now I'm sticking to learning about index funds because that is where I want to start. I think I'm just about ready to invest in two. The last thing I need to do is get the prospectus for each one. I have a real fear about reading those things because I don't understand them, but now with Bogle's help, I feel I can. I am very excited! I have never felt this empowered before!

outside_the_box_mom

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Sat, 08-14-2004 - 9:37am
Where's the predictability? As I posted in Cocoapop's survey, I didn't quit to SAH. I quit to start my own business. So have alot of other women and men. Is that still considered "opting out" in your book? And if so, why?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 10:15am
Such drama she has. I for one have no opinion whatsoever on whether she would have been a better example if she had left long ago - just that the reason she is giving for (seeking? allowing? is she actually doing ANYTHING but whining, even now?) a divorce is without a doubt THE most trivial reason I have ever heard (OMG, my spouse actually thinks I ought to demonstrate a shred of respect or appreciation for him, I couldn't possibly do that!). So either it should have been over with a long time ago, or she should suck it up and go to counseling to see why the notion that her husband would like it if she didn't treat him like dirt is so troubling to her.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 10:17am

Again with "the norm".


Maybe you should just stop making blanket statements that are easily proven wrong.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 10:19am

Good one! Tell me again how you're not a martyr.


Simply pointing out that it's a bit silly of you to hold yourself up as some sort of uberwoman role model. You're just like everyone else, albeit with perhaps slightly larger clay feet.

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 11:36am
You go girl! I am totally excited FOR you. You are right, taking control is completely empowering.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 12:24pm
Yes, a high percentage quit when they have babies. Please fill in the blanks: A high percentage of women quit working when they do _________. I cant' think of one besides become mothers.

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