Try "decide to retire." And from an employer's perspective, it matters naught whether a woman quits to SAH or whether she quits to take another job. So try the sentence: "A high proportion of women (and men) quit whenever they find a better job." (For some people, men and women, that "better job" is SAH.)
You do have a knack for misreading posts. I do not think your children would do better without you. I think they would do better with TWO parents who are together and who are working out their issues. Together. Imagine the lesson you would present to them . . . one they would carry on into their own marriages.
I'm going to disagree here, but please remember where I'm coming from. The best example that i can set for my kids RIGHT NOW is that when all has been tried and it's just not working, that you make the hard decisions for everyone. I hope that they carry into their marriage an understanding that they do NOT need to stay in an unhappy marriage for years and years and years -- I hope that they carry into their marriage the lesson that YES, they DESERVE to be happy and not lose themselves in the whole process of "staying together for the kids". BLECH.
However, i will not speak for GK's marriage, ONLY for my own. I think i have presented them with PLENTY of valuable lessons - AND he is STILL their DAD AND we are still working at co-parenting them TOGETHER.
Really? Where has anyone said that? Honestly, this reading comprehension problem of yours is getting scary.
I never said you were a bad mother. I never said squat about your children being better off without you as their mother. What I did say is that you're no better a role model than any other mother out there, and why you have the constant need to put yourself on a pedestal is something for you and your therapist to figure out.
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I'm going to disagree here, but please remember where I'm coming from. The best example that i can set for my kids RIGHT NOW is that when all has been tried and it's just not working, that you make the hard decisions for everyone. I hope that they carry into their marriage an understanding that they do NOT need to stay in an unhappy marriage for years and years and years -- I hope that they carry into their marriage the lesson that YES, they DESERVE to be happy and not lose themselves in the whole process of "staying together for the kids". BLECH.
However, i will not speak for GK's marriage, ONLY for my own. I think i have presented them with PLENTY of valuable lessons - AND he is STILL their DAD AND we are still working at co-parenting them TOGETHER.
Eileen
The norm, huh?
I agree with both of you...I think that if a marraige can be saved all attempts to save it should be made prior to divorce.
Really? Where has anyone said that? Honestly, this reading comprehension problem of yours is getting scary.
I never said you were a bad mother. I never said squat about your children being better off without you as their mother. What I did say is that you're no better a role model than any other mother out there, and why you have the constant need to put yourself on a pedestal is something for you and your therapist to figure out.
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