I am really sorry to hear you have separated. I kind of figured based on a previous post. I really feel for you both. I hope things will work out and get better for your family's sake and yours. I can only imagine how hard it is to be apart and then have troubles. Please know you are in my thoughts and I'm wishing you and your family the very best!
But that's largely the point. You said when *everything* has been tried, it can be the best thing to divorce. In GK's situation, it doesn't sound like *anything* has been tried. The minute he told her he there was a problem, she told him he could take a hike.
Understood. however i will not get dragged into talking about GKs life and marriage. steer FAR, FAR clear of any such discussions -- as they are fairly pointless ON BOTH SIDES. I just wanted to give my perspective on why SOME would find divorce to be a type of role modeling as opposed to a negative.
My son is 21, lives at home (he's saving to buy his own home), works FT as a network admin, goes to school part time and he and I are very close. I don't feel my working FT has created any sort of rift between us. Frankly any issues we've ever had (and we've worked through them all) stemmed NOT from my working,, but from my ex's and my split. And much of the reason we've BEEN able to work through those issues is because my ex and I were able to work through OUR issues--it's a LOT easier to work through problems with one's child when one is able to hear unflattering criticism of one's decisions, to accept blame and fault when it's appropriately placed and to say the words, "I was wrong; please forgive me." My ex and I have both been able to do that--with ourselves and with our son and that has far and away more to do with our great relationship with our grown son than our working status ever did.
I think your nurse friend's issues with her children likely have far more to do with her broken marriage than her work status, although I'm equally certain you'll disagree.
But I've been there and done that and I know EXACTLY where the problems issued.
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Sandee
oh no not seperated as in we no longer are togther...Seperated as in he lives in Maryland and I live with the kids here.
eileen
I think your nurse friend's issues with her children likely have far more to do with her broken marriage than her work status, although I'm equally certain you'll disagree.
But I've been there and done that and I know EXACTLY where the problems issued.
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
Too bad she didn't understand how to create a strong bond with her sons.
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