Have you ever heard of a sahm who contributed nothing financially to the home? Most sahms work up until having children and then return to contributing money to the family pot soon after the youngest is in school. Yes, there's possibly a few yrs when the sahp is given food, clothes and necessities from the family pot. But it's not a donation, it's very much earned.
I worked and put my entire life savings into the down payment of our home and also used some of "my" money for my expenses and needs and wants for the first few yrs of sah. I guess I could sit down with paper and pencil and fight it out with DH, but we didn't need to do that. He's a little more mature than that. I could put in writing the money we save by not paying for dc.
Do you think it's reasonable to equate a sahp with a welfare recipient? IMO, that's not reasonable, but extreme, unreasonable and indicative of something going on under the surface.
No, you're not being supported by the govt. Not even a bit. Devin paid INTO Social Security and now you are simply receiving that money back, plus interest.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
I would like to think that Devin and I were interdependent on each other but I have feeling we were codependent. Maybe that is why I am having such a hard time adjusting.
I can completely understand how the poster's supervisor blamed her working status on her relationship with her children. Some people have a difficult time balancing work and parenting. In my own case, I regret working as much as I did when dd1 was young. I was determined not to make that *mistake* again, and yes, IMO it was a mistake. I don't think it harmed my rel'shp with dd, but I do think my rel'shp would be better if we had spent more quality time together. Guess I wasn't as good as lots of the WMs here. I was tired at the end of the day. I know I had less energy for dd than I do with my kids now when I SAH. Based on my past parenting experience, I decided I wanted to do things different. I wanted to be their primary caregiver until they start school. I am a big time believer in they are only little for such a short time. I wish I could get more time back with dd1. I don't mourn over it, but I definately have regrets. I have spent most of my younger children's lives AH with them. Its been 6 years and now they will both be in school. 6 years is nothing in my life - a drop in the bucket. My skills haven't deteriorated, in fact I have kept current in my profession (courses and occasional employment)and I have learned a whole new profession.
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I worked and put my entire life savings into the down payment of our home and also used some of "my" money for my expenses and needs and wants for the first few yrs of sah. I guess I could sit down with paper and pencil and fight it out with DH, but we didn't need to do that. He's a little more mature than that. I could put in writing the money we save by not paying for dc.
Do you think it's reasonable to equate a sahp with a welfare recipient? IMO, that's not reasonable, but extreme, unreasonable and indicative of something going on under the surface.
Nothing really, I just didn't understand why you would be upset with PNJ's assessment of SAH as a dependency.
Mondo
No, I don't equte the two as the same.
Mondo
I'd be willing to wager that there isn't a person in America who is not "dependent" on someone for something.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
For some reason, I thought I was resonding to LTB.
Mondo
"When death like a gypsy comes
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Kristi Kristi Kristi....
We all have a little codependence in us!! LOL.
Mondo
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