I would. What's the big deal? Is there some magic time that the kids turn into pumpkins? What do you think will happen to your kids if they stay up until 10PM one night? My kids usually go to bed around 9, but when we go out we let them stay up as long as they like. Not everyone has some huge fixation on having their kids in bed at the same time each and every night.
It takes my ds four seconds flat to pull down his shorts and underwear, crouch and go poop. And yes, he has been without supervision long enough to have that happen. Once or twice, the only way I knew it had happened was the tufts of grass sticking out his little bum. (Then I get to go out in the yard and try to find it. That's always a good time.)
He wears underwear. He was potty trained the third week of July. He does not ask for an adult when he needs to go poop. He finds the toilet and goes poop and then 95% of the time, remembers to ask for a parent to come "check" that he did a good enough job wiping. On a handful of occasions, he has chosen to skip the part where he finds a toilet and has gone poop outside. Right now, he knows it is "naughty" and is primarily doing it to get a rise out of me. Hence, my lack of outrage that he is doing it.
You know, I don't think you should be able to have it both ways. If you want us (the board) to acknowledge that you know best when it comes to bedtime routines and sleep issues for your boys and have us respect your choice to keep it all very rigid and uniform at your house, then I think you should reciprocate and give some respect for those of us who are not confined to such rigidity for our own children. The way you questioned Mondomom makes me think you have no respect for those of us who make different choices for our families.
I have another question for you. Say you are over for a family dinner at your friends' home and everyone is having an exceptional time. You've had some wine, the kids are content playing, the adult conversation is just getting good, and all of a sudden it is approaching your children's bedtime. Do you always leave to make it home for bedtime? (If the answer is yes, then I am going to feel sorry for you.)
"I've already had my own blissful childhood, so I'm intent on having the fulfilled adult life my mother never achieved." I already had my own blissful childhood, and *am having* the fulfilled adult life my mother also achieved. A very large part of that is giving my son his own blissful childhood, imagine that.
Is everything done the same way every day at your house?
My DS is in a growth spurt. He is cranky every day by about 3:00. On Thursday I lost my patience with him.
So I told him to get his rest mat and pillow and take a rest. He did. Under my desk, with the dog. They both fell asleep and he stayed there. I used the time to finish up an article I was working on. Then I put him to bed. And he stayed there until breakfast.
So he got no dinner, no bath, his teeth weren't brushed, and he wasn't in his pjs.
But he survived no worse for the wear. Got up the next morning happy as a clam. We made muffins together.
Sometimes you just have to make allowances. Kids are people, too.
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Jenna
How did they sleep on vacation?
PumpkinAngel
Have you tried crocs?
PumpkinAngel
He wears underwear. He was potty trained the third week of July. He does not ask for an adult when he needs to go poop. He finds the toilet and goes poop and then 95% of the time, remembers to ask for a parent to come "check" that he did a good enough job wiping. On a handful of occasions, he has chosen to skip the part where he finds a toilet and has gone poop outside. Right now, he knows it is "naughty" and is primarily doing it to get a rise out of me. Hence, my lack of outrage that he is doing it.
You didn't answer my question.
I have another question for you. Say you are over for a family dinner at your friends' home and everyone is having an exceptional time. You've had some wine, the kids are content playing, the adult conversation is just getting good, and all of a sudden it is approaching your children's bedtime. Do you always leave to make it home for bedtime? (If the answer is yes, then I am going to feel sorry for you.)
I *think* PNJ was just wondering why I'd do such a thing considering I'm in the middle of "sleep training".
Mondo
My DS is in a growth spurt. He is cranky every day by about 3:00. On Thursday I lost my patience with him.
So I told him to get his rest mat and pillow and take a rest. He did. Under my desk, with the dog. They both fell asleep and he stayed there. I used the time to finish up an article I was working on. Then I put him to bed. And he stayed there until breakfast.
So he got no dinner, no bath, his teeth weren't brushed, and he wasn't in his pjs.
But he survived no worse for the wear. Got up the next morning happy as a clam. We made muffins together.
Sometimes you just have to make allowances. Kids are people, too.
outside_the_box_mom
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