I wasn't suggesting that you let your children stay up until 10 pm. . .I was responding to your reply to suzymomm's post asking about whether or not you'd leave an enjoyable evening with friends just to put the kids to bed.
But that is what I truly do not understand. How is one sacrificing one's dreams for 21 years? Indeed, I achieved my dreams by SAH/WAH. I am way more successful now that I would ever have been had I stayed in a corporate environment.
SAH doesn't automatically mean you become a vegetable for the entire life of your child. There's a whole wide world out there, PNJ, and much of it is outside the confines of a nine to five job.
I got it too, PNJ. And maybe because you and I have gotten to "know" each other a bit off this board, I understand that you meant it in a positive way.
Well, I would say it's a valid question. . .what is the harm in letting them stay up and you having a good time for an extra hour or two. . .EVERY ONCE in a while.
You let them have icecream on 'special' occasions (though I don't see why it need only be at birthday parties, it's your perogative). . .why can they not stay up late on special occasions?
Again, it's like you try to impress us with your 'mom-liness' because you insist on such strict schedules.
I understand it completely. To me, your joy in your son's childhood comparative to your own is very similar, I believe, in the healing I found in holding, loving and nurturing a relationship with my ex's kids comparative to the extreme loss I felt when we broke up and I knew he and I would never have more children together. That was a terrible loss and one I never believed could truly heal, yet just holding their kids and seeing the beauty and good that had come as a result of my loss--that was truly a joy and I believe a precious gift from God.
No, it's NOT the same as having had more of my own, but it healed the ache of that loss. I doubt your child's childhood will ever erase the ache of your own, but the goodness of his has helped heal the ache of yours, and....as you've said, it's a joy and a precious gift from God.
Isn't it amazing how differently people parent? My children were both up past 9:00 last night. We went and ate dinner with some friends then made a mad dash to the grocery. Got home and got them dressed for bed and the kids were playing together. They were jumping on Zak's bed and Zak was describing one of his Playstation games to Alex. It was adorable and I let them stay up longer because of it. Then, Zak wanted to see the 100 Meters dash to find out who the fastest man in the world was. It didn't come on until 10:00 but I let him watch it.
I mean how often do you see the fastest man in the world race?
To me, life is full of those small moments..jumping on the bed with your brother and just enjoying life. Unfortunately, my children always have those moments at night.
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I wasn't suggesting that you let your children stay up until 10 pm. . .I was responding to your reply to suzymomm's post asking about whether or not you'd leave an enjoyable evening with friends just to put the kids to bed.
SAH doesn't automatically mean you become a vegetable for the entire life of your child. There's a whole wide world out there, PNJ, and much of it is outside the confines of a nine to five job.
outside_the_box_mom
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Well, I would say it's a valid question. . .what is the harm in letting them stay up and you having a good time for an extra hour or two. . .EVERY ONCE in a while.
You let them have icecream on 'special' occasions (though I don't see why it need only be at birthday parties, it's your perogative). . .why can they not stay up late on special occasions?
Again, it's like you try to impress us with your 'mom-liness' because you insist on such strict schedules.
No, it's NOT the same as having had more of my own, but it healed the ache of that loss. I doubt your child's childhood will ever erase the ache of your own, but the goodness of his has helped heal the ache of yours, and....as you've said, it's a joy and a precious gift from God.
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
Isn't it amazing how differently people parent? My children were both up past 9:00 last night. We went and ate dinner with some friends then made a mad dash to the grocery. Got home and got them dressed for bed and the kids were playing together. They were jumping on Zak's bed and Zak was describing one of his Playstation games to Alex. It was adorable and I let them stay up longer because of it. Then, Zak wanted to see the 100 Meters dash to find out who the fastest man in the world was. It didn't come on until 10:00 but I let him watch it.
I mean how often do you see the fastest man in the world race?
To me, life is full of those small moments..jumping on the bed with your brother and just enjoying life. Unfortunately, my children always have those moments at night.
"When death like a gypsy comes
&nbs
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