SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 1:52pm

<< I do think I"m a better mom to my children because I observe and attend to their sleep needs.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 1:54pm
When my stepson was about 11, he was sitting next to me watching TV. He bent forward to change the channel . . . and I just about passed out from the smell. I said to my DH at the time, "Honey, can you see if DS has changed his underpants in a while?" Come to find, he was wearing them for 5 or more days at a stretch. Whew!

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 1:55pm
Or at age 39. Nice thing about being single ... no skid marked undies.


Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:00pm

"Regardless, how is my not working at least PT a "sacrifice" of 21 years of my dreams? "


I have no idea what your dreams are.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:03pm
I absolutely flat out can state that I do not wish to turn out like my mother.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:06pm
Why would my DS be either home alone or with a housekeeper I do not and never will have in his teen years if I went back to work? What will yours be doing?

I don't think I can explain to you how it is no sacrifice whatsoever to me not to be doing something I don't want to do right now even though I thoroughly enjoyed it when I did do it. Different stage of my life. I expect to have many.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:06pm

"re you attending to their needs? or what you think their needs are? Are their needs feeding the schedule? or are their needs being artificially created by the schedule? And I don't think kids sleep needs are consistent."


You, op123 and a cast of thousands are challenging my knowledge of my kids' needs.

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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:09pm

"I don't think I can explain to you how it is no sacrifice whatsoever to me not to be doing something I don't want to do right now even though I thoroughly enjoyed it when I did do it."


You don't want to be practicing now.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:20pm
I just don't think you are in a position to be saying as a general proposition that there is time to "do it all" without "squeezing" things in while still WOH FT, when your vacation time is more generous than many, people in your area work on similar schedules and accordingly have events when your kids can go to them with you working, you don't mind doing non-family things on weekends and your definition of doing it all is so different than mine.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:26pm
It is my goal to find something which correlates pretty closely with a school calendar for quite some time, yes. When he is old enough to have a summer job, I expect he will have one and he will accordingly not be home alone. If he's anything at all like DH or I were, he will be in so many extracurriculars that I'd have to be working quite long hours during the school year not to beat him home. If not, I anticipate he will be at the local Y. What will your teens be doing?

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