SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:29pm

Based on MY definition of having it all, including very deliberately training and planning a career route that would afford me a great salary and generous time off (I don't get some credit for that?) so I can WOH FT, there is time, for me in my own personal life, to do it all.


I wouldn't live where you do, move whenever my DH took a new job, stop WOH entirely, etc., etc., yet to you, I'm sure all that is part of YOUR "having it all."

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:31pm

It would be a sacrifice for me to have to tailor whatever paid or volunteer work I chose to the school calendar.


My kids will be home and/or driven around by someone during their teens.

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:32pm

I am trying very hard to get a handle on DDs "needs".

Mondo

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:34pm

I'm not supposing in the least what your kids needs are. You may very well be doing exactly what your kids need. My point was that its very easy to get the two confused and wondered if you had thought about it. It was an information finding post, not an information giving one.


It does seem sometimes that you are overly focused on doing what "should" be done to be a good mom, instead of just being a good mom. KWIM? It's not a slam on you ... there's nobility in trying to be a good mom. We all want that. But sometimes, and I've foudn this out the hard way and am still learning, its easier to be that good mom by just "being" instead of trying so damned hard.



Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:34pm
I personally don't like Sears, so I really can't advise.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:35pm
No, I"m sorry, I really don't know what you mean.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:37pm
LOL! Or at 51!
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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:37pm

It's this sort of exaggeration and take to the extreme in your posts that bugs me PNJ. I think you're great .. you know I do. We don't go at it very often ...


But to take a 9pm bedtime that's extended occasionally to 10 pm (per 1969's post) and put it in context of "keep your kids up til midnight" is just baiting. sure, a midnight extension to a kid, like yours, that normally goes to bed at 8pm is extreme and I doubt any of us here would do that except in extremely rare circumstances. But take a kid whose bedtime is normally 9 and put him to bed at 10 isn't very extreme.



Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:40pm
Well, Hollie, my kids' bedtimes are within a 30 min range.

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 3:05pm
ITA.

My dd's school bedtime is 10. If she stayed up to 11 it would't be extreme.

Paige

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