SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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Registered: 12-12-2002
SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 3:07pm

So you do have some tolerance. If you have 1/2 hour window either way, that's not much different for a 4 or 2yo than a one hour window for a 10yo.


I don't object at all to the way you handle your kids. Just offering the thought that maybe if you did relax the rules some, you might get to experience something (a special event or moment) that otherwise you wouldn't.


I don't adjust my kids bedtimes very often unless I know they can make it up the next day. If something is going on (the fair, a family party) that would make it fun for all of us to be up 2 hours later, then we usually sleep 1-2 hours later the next day. No way would I let dd or ds go to bed 2 hours later than usual and expect to get them up on "schedule" the next day. ACK! (Hell, I can't do that and I'm 33! lol)



Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 3:28pm
We avoided a lot of issues like that by bringing along a toothbrush and a set of jammies if things might run late, making falling asleep in the car a plus, not a minus.
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 3:34pm
Hmmm... put the jammies on and brush the teeth *before* we leave.... (me scratching my head and wondering why that never occurred us....)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 3:40pm

"I don't adjust my kids bedtimes very often unless I know they can make it up the next day. "


That's not a concept (yet) that works with my children.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 3:42pm
Because your dd wouldn't stay asleep after being transferred from car to crib, and you'd just have to go through the whole bedtime routine any way?

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 3:52pm
Another part of it is that we have this evening dousing routine where we put on her eczema medicine followed by grease (actually, it's the Mango Body Butter from the Body Shop, but it feels like grease) -- the routine that I guess I could do at someone else's house, but then I wouldn't be enjoying the party.

But if all I had to do was lift her up gently from the carseat and transfer her to the bed w/o having to do any of the other bedtime routines, she may actually stay asleep. She does, however, wake up early in the morning even when she stays up past her bedtime, and will get cranky later in the morning. But that's why I love having a nanny -- if she's tired at 10am, she can take her nap then. For some reason, she doesn't seem to get overly tired in the evening by having an early nap. Go figure.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 3:59pm
I thought of you this weekend while watching my niece (she's only 15 months, and I know your dd is 2) - girls are so calm and quiet LOL!

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 4:04pm
Again, depends on the child. Mine always took the trasfer from car to bed very easily. In fact, I could actually change ds's diaper and get him into jammies without him waking up. Dd was a bit more sensitive but not by much.

Laura

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 4:05pm
Agreed.

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 4:06pm
Oh, yea the "calm and quiet" stage... LOL!

But on a serious note, my dd totally freaked me out this weekend. She woke up screaming and was not consolable. She kept looking at her pillow and pointing to it like there was something there. Nothing I or my dh did was making her calm down then after about 5 or 10 mintes, she was OK. My dh thought maybe it was a "night terror." I don't know, but whatever it was, I hope it doesn't happen again.

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