Don't you think that is a bit harsh? I run half court and I am happy that I do. Content, actually. I am the sole provider but we manage well.
Did I worry about the ramifications of taking an administrative position and the stereotypes I help continue? No. I would honestly say that was on the absolute bottom of my considerations. I don't want the personal costs of a "career." I want a job...a job that pays my bills and allows me to have a life.
It is my compromise to myself. I simply could not juggle having a career with taking care of my family. Others might have done better but, to me, the cost was too high.
Women biting at women for their choices doesn't help either. Feminists own worse enemy is (sometimes) feminists.
Thanks. I could provide for my dd & myself. Thankfully, I don't have to do it. But I could so I'm prepared.
Running half court is nothing to me. I don't want to run full court. I didn't want a career. I just wanted a nice job that I love doing.
I don't worry about the ramfications because I can't do anything about it unless I stay in the work field rather than take time off to have babies & be a sahm. If that sends mixed or negative signals, so be it.
I would have been a teacher if I was going to spend my life single or if we were not going to have a family & it just be the two of us.
I'm not the kind of feminist that believes women should sacrifice what they truly want to give others, even way down the road in other generations, benefits.
ITA! People who just want the vacation time need to find another career. This is one reason I favor year round school. You won't have people choosing to teach in order to get the summers off. What a lousy reason to choose to be an educator.
Got any stats that say men quit to SAH in the same numbers women do? Sorry but I've never read that one. Women are FAR more likely to quit when they have kids than men are. If men leave, it's to take a different job. That kind of movement is almost encouraged as it keeps the knowledge base diverse.
It is a reward of the position since I wanted to teach. I knew I wanted a family. It was condusive to both, the reward side, the family side and all while I wanted to be a teacher.
I'm sorry you feel this way. Really, I am. But you think so differntly than most women I have ever met. Are you really a man? lol
My girls have always known what I do. Though I did kind of confuse dd#1 when she was 2 an dI had to bring her with me to make a very early clay review. She thought I played with play doh for a long while there, lol. What's a 2 yo to think when she sees a model car made out of clay and knows that this is where mommy works, lol.
My kids know enough to question the earning potential of both jobs. They're not only aware of what I do but they're aware that engineers make a lot more than teachers. Dd#1 doesn't like this because she wants to be rich, lol. Dd#2 doesn't like this because she thinks the mom is supposed to make more money than the dad and knows that I will be making less than her dad when I make this change. So far, I like the way my dd's view working.
Please tell me how teaching chemistry and physics after having a full career in engineering is going the girlie route. Nope, don't think so. I WISH this was the girlie route. If it were, we'd be close to where we should be. Deciding to teach what you've learned after having a career ins't the girlie route. Not by a long shot.
How so? I've already cut the male dominated field of engineering. I'm 45 not 25. If I was quitting a few years after starting you might have an arguement but I've done my time. At my age, leaving is considered an early retirement. Do you really think that men who retire early send the message men can't cut it? Taking an early retirement isn't a sign you can't cut it. It's a sign you're ready to do something else.
Teaching is not the only profession women may choose to better accomdate family life.
My sister went in to nursing like my mother so she could work 3-12hr shifts 7a-7p M-W and be home Th/Fr/weekends.
My sil is a nurse, do you know why she chose it? So she could work in a dr office. She works M-F 8 to 3 so she can drop the kids off at school & pick them up.
My friend is a secretary, why? Because she works 7:30-3 & can be home before the kids get off the school bus. Her dh takes them to school.
Teaching isn't the only profession women make family choices. Sorry that it bothers you that some of us women actually want to be home with our kids, want to be in jobs that are condusive to a family life style & doesn't inhibit it.
Because you don't think this way doesn't make it wrong.
As I've also said. I would have been a teacher even if I was going to be single or no children. The time off can be a huge factor to a single woman the same as to a married one or mother.
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It wasn't your choice that bugged me, only the perceived flippancy about it that did.
Mondo
Don't you think that is a bit harsh? I run half court and I am happy that I do. Content, actually. I am the sole provider but we manage well.
Did I worry about the ramifications of taking an administrative position and the stereotypes I help continue? No. I would honestly say that was on the absolute bottom of my considerations. I don't want the personal costs of a "career." I want a job...a job that pays my bills and allows me to have a life.
It is my compromise to myself. I simply could not juggle having a career with taking care of my family. Others might have done better but, to me, the cost was too high.
Women biting at women for their choices doesn't help either. Feminists own worse enemy is (sometimes) feminists.
"When death like a gypsy comes
&nbs
Running half court is nothing to me. I don't want to run full court. I didn't want a career. I just wanted a nice job that I love doing.
I don't worry about the ramfications because I can't do anything about it unless I stay in the work field rather than take time off to have babies & be a sahm. If that sends mixed or negative signals, so be it.
I would have been a teacher if I was going to spend my life single or if we were not going to have a family & it just be the two of us.
I'm not the kind of feminist that believes women should sacrifice what they truly want to give others, even way down the road in other generations, benefits.
Paige
I'm sorry you feel this way. Really, I am. But you think so differntly than most women I have ever met. Are you really a man? lol
My kids know enough to question the earning potential of both jobs. They're not only aware of what I do but they're aware that engineers make a lot more than teachers. Dd#1 doesn't like this because she wants to be rich, lol. Dd#2 doesn't like this because she thinks the mom is supposed to make more money than the dad and knows that I will be making less than her dad when I make this change. So far, I like the way my dd's view working.
My sister went in to nursing like my mother so she could work 3-12hr shifts 7a-7p M-W and be home Th/Fr/weekends.
My sil is a nurse, do you know why she chose it? So she could work in a dr office. She works M-F 8 to 3 so she can drop the kids off at school & pick them up.
My friend is a secretary, why? Because she works 7:30-3 & can be home before the kids get off the school bus. Her dh takes them to school.
Teaching isn't the only profession women make family choices. Sorry that it bothers you that some of us women actually want to be home with our kids, want to be in jobs that are condusive to a family life style & doesn't inhibit it.
Because you don't think this way doesn't make it wrong.
As I've also said. I would have been a teacher even if I was going to be single or no children. The time off can be a huge factor to a single woman the same as to a married one or mother.
Paige
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