SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 12:56pm
Nope. I'm 45 not 25. Please explain how taking an early retirement to teach what I've spend the last 25 years learning is showing that I can't cut it? I've spent 25 years showing that I can cut it. If anything, I'm feeding the stereotype that says that older workers don't want to put in the kind of time needed to advance an engineering career not one that says women can't cut it. I would have to have quit at 30 to have done that.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 12:57pm
I have. I spent 25 years working as an engineer and proving that women can do it. Now I'm taking an early retirement. How is that hurting them? Retiring from a career early to teach at 48 is not the same as opting out when you're 25.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 12:58pm
Really? How is having a successful carreer as an engineer and retiring at 48 to teach harming women? Do tell? No, I'd have to quit at 28 to show we can't cut it for the long haul not 48. Try again.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:01pm
Your original point was that women should consider the ramifications of their actions when they stop working. I counter that women DO consider the ramificaitons of their actions, but the affect on other women is a distant second to the affect on the woman's own family when considering those ramifications.

Are you saying that the majority of women who quit working are incapable of thinking their decisin through thoroughly?

Jenna

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:02pm
You keep acting like the employer gives a rat's patootie WHAT you're quitting to do.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:02pm
So you're not going to act in a sterotypcal fashion by leaving engineering for teaching are you?

Jenna

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:02pm
So you would have felt like a failure to women if you had opted out or took a period of leave?

Wow. (not a good Wow either)

Paige

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:04pm
My dh is going to retire early & I'm going to quit so we can enjoy life. I don't think it is wrong or sends any wrong messages.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:07pm
I'm sorry, but that is not how stereotypes are changed.
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:07pm
They won't care. They may ask why. But they will forget it, hire someone else, maybe a man to fill her position (oooooh!) and move on. But the same time next year they will not remember that she quit to teach. Just that she no longer works for them. The women working with her probably couldn't give a patootie if she quit to stay home with the kids or quit to teach or quit to travel around the world with her dh.

People just don't care. Colleagues of mine quit all the time. To stay home with babies, to travel, to just sah even if they don't have kids, to change careers, whatever. When we go back to school the next year we don't think about so & so quit to sah and she is hurting the teacher profession.

People should just live by their own standards.

Paige

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