SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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Registered: 12-12-2002
SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:08pm
But there is a stereotype that women can't hack it in male dominated fields, to which you are contributing.
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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:29pm

No, I have no problem with it from a personal decision standpoint.

Mondo

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:34pm
So what family friendly occupations are your male friends in (the last example you didn't say but I'm guessing it's a female as well)? If they aren't teaching, nursing,

Mondo

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:56pm
Exactly where is the cutoff? I quit at 36 to sah (not permanently, I might add), and you've told me that I'm perpetuating the stereotype.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 2:18pm
Nope its not a flip side. No matter how hands on men may feel obligated to be...they are going to be in no position to do a thing about the lack of earning power of their wives. On the other hand, a wife capable of supporting a family even better than her husband, should have no real problem convincing such a husband, where the husband wants to have a sahp - to be a sahd. What tends to happen still is that even when women do earn more...the resent the fact that they do and spend alot of time resenting husbands who won't earn more and make their lives easier.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 2:20pm
As soon as they stop pretending that people willing to work 2 days a week after a baby is born, are the equivalent value to employers a people who remain will to work 5 days a week after a baby is born...that stat is going to fall through the floor. Professional women are not and have not been doing a very good job at all.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 2:22pm
Well then don't expect equality with men in the workforce because men are willing to work to support their families even when they'd rather not be working.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 2:26pm
And every thing you just said...says women can manage to take quit working because they had babies in all kinds of ways. And of course, men don't enjoy the same options. So of course, women are not going to enjoy the same situation in the workplace. As a group we have all we need to work while raising kids. And to do it extremely successfully. We choose not to take advantage as a group, and therefore forfeit our right to expect the same rewards as men - who manage, whether they *want to* or not.
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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 2:37pm

"People just don't care. Colleagues of mine quit all the time. To stay home with babies, to travel, to just sah even if they don't have kids, to change careers, whatever. When we go back to school the next year we don't think about so & so quit to sah and she is hurting the teacher profession. "


WOW. Three colleagues I know have lost their homes when unable to find like work for an extended period (all with SAH wives). If I lost my job we'd get by 6 months-year with our cushion then probably have to rent out our house and move into an apartment.

Mondo

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 2:48pm
You know the more I hear of people lossing their homes and jobs it just reminds me how happy I am that dh is military.
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