SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 3:01pm
You have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. Not that it's any of your business, but I have in no way prevented my husband from taking a more family friendly position. In fact, some of the options we considered BEFORE I quit my job included: (1) my going back to a full time schedule so he could quit his job and work on his MBA; (2) my continuing to work a reduced schedule while he worked at a lower paying but less demanding job; (3) downsizing to a less expensive home so that he could work in a less demanding job. HE decided he didn't want to do any of those things. He likes his job, and he wants to continue doing it for the time being.

I have not whined about a darn thing. I simply stated my opinion that it is unfortunate that more men (including my husband) don't feel comfortable on "the mommy track," for want of a better term. My dh and I are both happy with our current situation, and it works for our family. Don't take your hostilities out on me.

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 3:09pm

That may be a COL thing. I *do* know a couple of teachers with DHs out of commission (one was a contracter who got hurt) - and they are truly struggling.

Mondo

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 3:25pm
That book was made into a movie - Conrack - starring a very young and cute Jon Voight.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 3:31pm
I think she just came back from an exhibition of French painters and now she "gets Toulouse"
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 3:33pm
Silly! I'm not having a problem with your idea, like 90% of the people who bother to read you posts, I'm having a problem FINDING your idea. The only coherent thought I've gotten from your posts is that you've got a problem with me personally and think I live in a shoebox.

I can live with that.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 3:35pm
Loose means not tight.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 3:50pm
You really don't have the intellectual capacity to grasp the fact that people just might have different *values* than you do? That not all people see having a career as the only worthwhile accomplishment a woman can achieve? Wow.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 4:07pm
Part of the problem you so ludicrously define? Sure, I'll admit that, lol. I'll live in your fantasy world for a minute if it'll make you happy. I don't think there *is* a problem.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 4:15pm
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Prove it.

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I never said it was "bad." It does fit the stereotype we've been talking about though.

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Duh.

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Huh?

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No, that's what you want to make it about because if you can reframe the debate enough then you can carve grimal out of it. The fact is that there is still a very real prejudice out there that women cannot cut it in certain male dominated professions. Teaching certainly is not one of those. And grimal's actions are as consistent with that stereotype as mine.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 4:34pm
You know it's not true. The fact that you don't like it doesn't make it true.

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