WE got OUR way. We considered all the reasonable options and decided on the course of action that we as a couple thought would work best for our family both now and in the long run. Is that so difficult to understand? It's not a contest. Even if we might have different opinions about a particular issue, we are mature enough to consider each other's point of view. I can't think of a single major issue where either of us has gotten his or her way to the detriment of something the other one values. We've always managed to cooperate and come to some sort of a joint decision. I suppose that is because we have the same long-term goals and realize that compromise may occasionally be necessary in order to reach those. Maybe that's what you're having trouble with.
I didn't either after reading it a few times. I don't know where she came up with that. But then where she comes up with quite a bit of bullsh** she posts no one knows either.
It is as plain as the nose on your face. Why O123 is misunderstanding you is questionable. I do think you have to consult with one another & be considerate when you are part of a relationship, married or not. You have to look at the values placed on each and decide what is best for all when looking at the full circle. Compromise is part of any relationship, or should be.
Yah, & I'm glad I'm not the only one. I also got the perception she sees a) kids like monkeys being part of studies & we should live by concrete research findings and b) the way she talks about men, women should work to empower themselves & finances in marriage & c) women should stay in the work force over sah because it defines stereotypes that women cook, clean, and rear the family. Funny thing is I wohpt & still don't cook and clean. I'm going to become a sahm when we move & I will still not be cooking & cleaning. Just goes to show her old stereotype really doesn't work for us all. I guess women who do work (like me) and don't pay any of the bills is another low on the list for her.
Do you have a problem with women who work but don't financially contribute to the household income for paying living expenses? If so, please tell us why when it is obviously working for the spouses & the spouses have decided to do this way? I'm a secretary married to a doctor. My salary is really good but pales in comparison to his of course. We don't give a fig as you so graciously put it about my income to live on but we surge give a fig about it when we decide to blow it. It is nice.
Just as I like having this time with my daughters, and I want to sah with them for the time being. Everybody wins. You accused me of making it impossible for my dh to take a less demanding job because I sah. I was simply illustrating how wrong you are about that. I was somewhat on the fence about sah because I did enjoy my job, and because I didn't know how he would feel about being the sole breadwinner. We talked about it a lot, considered numerous options, and decided that this would be best for our family.
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