BTW dd has done something intersting. Dd#2 is in summer lessons learning Fur Elise. Dd#1 asked to take lessons this summer to learn it too. Interesting twist here. I never thought she'd volunteer to go in the summer.
We bought a home that was old & had orange shag carpet, green shag and that lovely red/white/blue shag carpet with some of the hideous wallpaper & paint colors you have ever seen. Appliances were a lovely avocado green. All that had to be replaced. Paneling had to be taken down, it was a job.
We decided that I'd just quit work so I could spend time working on the house before we moved. I painted, stripped wallpaper, found the hardwood floors underneath that gawdy carpet. It was a task. That didn't happen overnight.
Finally we moved in & I started the actual putting our own style into the house as far as furnishings, what to put on the walls, etc.
I could have worked & did it, but we didn't need the play the money which is what my salary was going to be so we said forget it and decided I'd just sah for awhile.
Really? Since when? As a teacher my vacation schedule, while ample, will be set. As an engineer, I go home after my 8 1/2 hour day and I'm done. As a teacher I go home to lesson plans to write, research, grading papers, writing exams and ordering supplies to stock labs. The way I figure it, I'm going to be working a lot more hours as a teacher than an engineer. Do you really think the only time teachrs work is when they're standing in front of the classroom? You have to prepare and the one hour they give you during the day, if you don't have to fill in for another teacher, isn't anywhere near enough to handle what it takes to teach 125 students.
You want flexibility. Work where I work. I use some of my vacation time an hour or two at a time so I can volunteer at my dd's schools. This will end when I'm teaching. I take my vacations when I want. That will end when I'm teaching (my schedule may or may not coincide with my kids schedules depending on whether I'm teaching in the district they attend). My evenings and weekends are my own. That will end when I'm teaching. Sometimes I think of how easy it would be to just stay in engineering. I find it funny when people say I'm moving into a more flexible less demanding job. No, I'm moving into a less flexible more demanding job. People just think it's easier because you get you time off, mainly, in a big chunk.
I will work 25 fewer days per year as a teacher than I do now but I will work much longer days and often on the weekends as a teacher, especially in the first few years when I'm developing lesson plans from scratch rather than fine tuning them. Nope. I wish teaching were easier. I don't expect it to be.
No. I just go by what I see and conversations with mentors. Given that a lot of older engineers came up through the old school, a lot of them hit 30 years before they're 50th birthday. I know a few who left before 50. Some to start new careers and some to retire and travel. All you have to do is look at the ratio of older engineers to younger to realize that they're going somewhere.
wow. thanks for the compliment. I've only recently started to think of myself as pretty -- and believe it.
Yes, the appraiser is mostly looking at the structure, BUT, they can be influenced by how much clutter/mess is there -- and we've accumulated a LOT, LOT, LOT of stuff over the many years. I have been paring it down slowly, but honestly, i need to organize it anyway and get some restful, quiet spaces around me.
Tell your sister that she now needs to send ME that picture, LOL! Your sister is the coolest (along with you) and i had SO much fun on our visit -- TOTALLY worth the extra driving time!!
Who are these *most men* anyway? And why would they be ashamed? I must hang out with progressive thinking men and women because I only know precious few obnoxious men who feel their masculinity is tied to their paycheque and where it goes. I'd suggest to those *most men* that they simply pool their money, pay the bills and make the savings/investment deposits and split the balance. That way they don't have to keep track of who earns the fun money and everyone's ego remains intact. How silly.
I outearned my dh. He was a clinical psychologist who earned about $70,000/year as a front line child welfare worker, and those earnings were after 15 years of service. He could have easily doubled his earnings by going into private practise. He was not Atypical either. He did what brought him personal satisfaction. Never bothered him an iota. I know several men whose wives out earn them and a few who are completely dependent b/c they are SAHDs. No shame here. Why should there be?
I suppose we could try to count guy friends and see how many would feel either way. LOL. I don't pretend to know what ALL men think because I assume they are about as diverse as we are! I get the feeling you and a lot of the others here DO live in more "progressive" communities.
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BTW dd has done something intersting. Dd#2 is in summer lessons learning Fur Elise. Dd#1 asked to take lessons this summer to learn it too. Interesting twist here. I never thought she'd volunteer to go in the summer.
We decided that I'd just quit work so I could spend time working on the house before we moved. I painted, stripped wallpaper, found the hardwood floors underneath that gawdy carpet. It was a task. That didn't happen overnight.
Finally we moved in & I started the actual putting our own style into the house as far as furnishings, what to put on the walls, etc.
I could have worked & did it, but we didn't need the play the money which is what my salary was going to be so we said forget it and decided I'd just sah for awhile.
Paige
You want flexibility. Work where I work. I use some of my vacation time an hour or two at a time so I can volunteer at my dd's schools. This will end when I'm teaching. I take my vacations when I want. That will end when I'm teaching (my schedule may or may not coincide with my kids schedules depending on whether I'm teaching in the district they attend). My evenings and weekends are my own. That will end when I'm teaching. Sometimes I think of how easy it would be to just stay in engineering. I find it funny when people say I'm moving into a more flexible less demanding job. No, I'm moving into a less flexible more demanding job. People just think it's easier because you get you time off, mainly, in a big chunk.
I will work 25 fewer days per year as a teacher than I do now but I will work much longer days and often on the weekends as a teacher, especially in the first few years when I'm developing lesson plans from scratch rather than fine tuning them. Nope. I wish teaching were easier. I don't expect it to be.
Should we bow, or build a shrine?
yawn
Yes, the appraiser is mostly looking at the structure, BUT, they can be influenced by how much clutter/mess is there -- and we've accumulated a LOT, LOT, LOT of stuff over the many years. I have been paring it down slowly, but honestly, i need to organize it anyway and get some restful, quiet spaces around me.
Tell your sister that she now needs to send ME that picture, LOL! Your sister is the coolest (along with you) and i had SO much fun on our visit -- TOTALLY worth the extra driving time!!
Eileen
Who are these *most men* anyway? And why would they be ashamed? I must hang out with progressive thinking men and women because I only know precious few obnoxious men who feel their masculinity is tied to their paycheque and where it goes. I'd suggest to those *most men* that they simply pool their money, pay the bills and make the savings/investment deposits and split the balance. That way they don't have to keep track of who earns the fun money and everyone's ego remains intact. How silly.
I suppose we could try to count guy friends and see how many would feel either way. LOL. I don't pretend to know what ALL men think because I assume they are about as diverse as we are! I get the feeling you and a lot of the others here DO live in more "progressive" communities.
Mondo
If I haven't said so already, BTW, your DH sounds like an exceptionally good guy.
Mondo
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