SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:19pm

That's what I thought too.

Mondo

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:20pm
No they didn't.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:20pm
You have options and flexibility which you've gone and created for yourself, the same way some men create similar options and flexibility for themselves. Its too much for some females to handle - the ones who've spent their lives as martyrs, just "sticking it out" wherever, doing whatever. You aren't supposed to go changing things even when you really don't *like* your life. You certainly aren't supposed to go merely improving things just because you figure you can. You aren't supposed to be weilding that kind of power. You are supposed to stay suffering, or at least less content, than you could be, so you can be living the properly helpless, dependant upon husband-circumstances-take-your-pick-of-power-source life. With power comes responsibility - personal responsibility - and accountability - personal accountability - and no woman is supposed to want THAT. If you ever ever ever make a change...it should be only ever to *do less* with your days and your life. You don't go adding. Its critical. Which is why of course, we have desperate attempt here to define your move as "life downsizing".

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Registered: 11-14-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:38pm
I am in CT too... and so very grateful to live in a state where careers in education are taken seriously. Thank you for your dedication.
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Registered: 11-14-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:45pm


I completely agree. I don't know if that is how certain posters actually feel, but it is the impression that is given when one refers to her salary as "play money" or "pin money".

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:53pm

Here's my two cents ...


1. A better term would be "discretionary income". It indicates that the income is not necessary to survive, but does not imply frivolity.


2. Does it have to be the lower-earner's income that is considered "play" or "discretionary"? If Mr. Jones makes $100K and Mrs. Jones makes $30K and they have $40K of "play" money, why is *her* job considered the source of the play money? Why can't we say Mr. and Mrs. Jones make $130K, which allows them $40K in discretionary income? Why designate one paycheck as play? Designate a *sum* of money as play, not the source of the money.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:00pm

"oes that make someone a better parent if they do what may be more difficult if all financial needs (retirement, college, nice neighborhood) and wants (activities, vacations) are met? Why?"


Do you mean if by doing what's more difficult, all financial needs are met?

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:01pm

In theory yep, that makes sense since BOTH parties benefit from the "discretionary" income.


In reality, if party #2 (no matter whether the higher earner or NOT) is in and out of work, at will, that makes it discretionary because the employment ITSELF, is discretionary (no matter the salary level). Unless of course, the bills are discretionary.

Mondo

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:03pm

<<Unfortunately, those women who a)chose female dominated professions right out of school are behaving like women not men and are recognized as such and b)women who quit their careers because they had babies are behvaing as women, not as men, and are recognized as such. Amazingly, these women in a) and b) don't get the same recognition for being able to do just what the guys do....because of course...they didn't. Oh well. >>


Fortunately, those women who a)*chose* a profession they wanted to be involved in, not one that they felt pressured to be in so that society wasn't *harmed* are behaving like men, by doing what they want to do and b) women who quit their careers because they had babies are behaving

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:04pm

"b) the way she talks about men, women should work to empower themselves & finances in marriage"


YES YES YES!

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